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From Heartbreak to Healing: Embracing Self-Love in the Journey

What happens when you lose the vision you had for your life in an instant? Can you find the strength to move forward from heartbreak to healing? In this podcast episode, breakup recovery coach Tal Yardeni shares her personal story and offers insights on how you can embrace self-love to become whole again after a breakup.

Show Notes | Transcript

“True self-love is when you no longer abandon yourself. You become your number one, your own best friend and advocate.” – Tal Yardeni    

Tal Yardeni is not your average life coach. Having navigated her own path of heartbreak and healing, she has cultivated a powerful persona as ‘the Breakup Recovery Coach’. After 13 years pursuing a career as a singer and actress in New York, the pandemic forced her to pivot, leading her tobecome a certified life and relationship coach. Her personal mission? Guide women through the challenging and often isolating process of coming to terms with a breakup or divorce, providing them with the support they often struggle to find.

In this episode, you will be able to:

  • Discover the pivotal role of self-love in your healing journey from a broken relationship.
  • Gain insights into the profound influence of spirituality during your comeback post breakup.
  • Uncover the hurdles of acceptance and fear faced during a breakup and ways to overcome them.
  • Learn how to keep self-love and self-care at the forefront during transitional times in your life.
  • Equip yourself with strategies too overcome obstacles and shift gears forward after a breakup or divorce.

Related Live. Love. Engage. episodes you may enjoy:

Creating Meaningful Relationships: Gavin Frye’s Guide to Intimacy

The Five Elements of Relationships with Dr. Vicki Matthews

The True Meaning of Love with Kim Sorrelle

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TRANSCRIPT

Gloria Grace Rand
You’re listening to the Live Love Engage podcast on today’s show, why self love is crucial to healing from a breakup. Stay tuned. I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of The Love Method and author of the number one Amazon bestseller, Live Love Engage How to Stop Doubting Yourself and Start Being Yourself. In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully, love deeply, and engage authentically so you can create a life and business with more impact, influence and income. Welcome to Live. Love. Engage.

Namaste. Oh, welcome, welcome regular listeners and viewers of Live Love Engage as well as those of you who this might be your first time. If it is, I am so glad you’re here. And for those of you who might be joining us for the first time and you missed the intro, I am Gloria Grace, the Light Messenger, also a spiritual alignment coach. And I really love helping women to pursue their dreams and to be able to live their best life now. And today’s guest is going to, falls right in line with that because that’s a bit about what she’s about as well. So I’m going to bring her on in just a second. But let me tell you who she is. She is Tal Yardeni and she is known as the breakup recovery coach. Having gone through her own heartbreak and being on the other side of it, she is super passionate about helping women let go of their ex, learn to love the F out of themselves and be ready for their best relationship yet inside of her group coaching program, which is called the Breakup to Badass Formula. I love that name, by the way. So I’m going to, without further ado, bring her on to the show. So welcome Tal to live, love, engage.

Tal Yardeni
Thank you. Thank you for that wonderful intro and thanks for having me. Gloria, I’m excited to speak with you.

Gloria Grace Rand
Well, I am too. For those of you who have been, for instance, possibly listening to this for the last year, you may have noticed occasionally I have brought up the fact that I am separated at the moment from my hubby, who is a wonderful guy. Wonderful guy. And it’s time. It’s time for a change. Let’s just say it that way. I’m going to leave it at that for the time being. So I know my story, but I want to know your story since I sort of alluded to it a little bit, having gone through your own heartbreak. So what was it about that that really did kind of catalyze you into this new movement of being this breakup recovery coach?

Tal Yardeni
Yeah, great question. So this thing called the pandemic happened, I don’t know if you’ve heard of it might have been affected. And so prior to that, for 13 years I lived in New York and I was a performer, I was a singer and an actress doing my thing. And during that time I had gone through a series of what I like to call hot mess express relationships. And during the pandemic I really had the time to reflect and take the time to look and see what were the patterns there and why did this keep showing up in my life and to be able to do some of that really deep healing. And also I had to see what I was going to do career wise because my industry had shut down. So it was so interesting. A few of my friends kept saying, life coach, life coach, life coach. And that had never come to me before, but I really sat with that and I felt like that I was led to that. And so I looked into certification. I got certified as a life and relationship coach. And then when I was thinking about who do I want to work with specifically? I got the idea I want to work with women who are going through a breakup or a divorce. Because I have lived that experience, and I know how painful that is. And being on the other side of it and how I got myself there, I had wished that I’d had something that I created. Now I wish that I had had that for myself then. So I knew that it would be super useful because when we’re going through something, I really do believe it’s one of the most painful things you can go through in life. And when we go through something like that, you feel so alone. You feel kind of like you’re on your own island. And so I created this program because I wanted women to know you are not alone in this. We tend to shame and blame ourselves so much when we’re going through something like this. And so I wanted women to know you are not alone in this. There is a way to move through this. This can be something that grows you, even if it is freaking painful. And I wanted to have a safe space so that women could do that. And go through that.

Gloria Grace Rand
That’s wonderful and so needed and just trying to think here because there’s a couple of different ways I want to go, I want to ollow up with this and my mind is going blank. So I’m just going to skip on and just ask you about because you had lovingly sent me some notes about it because I just am having one of those days. So brain fart. I think they call it lovingly.

Tal Yardeni
Totally okay.

Gloria Grace Rand
So what does a spiritual practice have to do with your breakup recovery?

Tal Yardeni
Yeah, that’s a good question. So, so many times we think that we can fix it. We want to be the ones to fix it, to make it right. Where do we go from here? When you understand that there’s something bigger than you running the show, you can stop relying on you and kind of put the brakes on and surrender it over to a power that’s greater than us. When you understand that and you understand your oneness with this power, it’s life changing and transformative in so many ways because for so much of our lives, we’re trying to figure it out. How do we do this? How do we get to the next step? We’re fixers. And so when we allow for a power greater than us to lead us. And to show us, it can really put you in a state of awe. Because if you for so long tried to control your life, you see that the controlling isn’t working. And so it doesn’t mean that we become complacent in life, but it means that we’re asking for guidance. And when you’re asking for that guidance, you are going to get clear direction and clear guidance. And you’ve probably gotten it all of your life, but you maybe haven’t been connected to it, so you didn’t know to trust it.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, and I can relate to that tremendously because was, where I wasn’t paying attention to it and now from where I am now that I do lean on source, God, universe, whatever you want to call it, I tend to default to God because I was raised Catholic. And even though I’m not practicing it anymore, that’s still the word that’s most comfortable to me. And in just reflecting from my situation that I’ve gone through the last few years, that really leaning into connecting with God, spending a lot of time in meditation, that has helped me tremendously to be able to manage dealing with things like, okay, number one, asking my husband for a divorce. That took… It took me well, technically years that I was sort of daydreaming about it. But then when I finally made the decision, it still took me another year to actually go to and actually talk to him about it. That sort of is getting me now, I think, to where I was trying to go originally. What have you found to be the biggest challenge that people going through a breakup face?

Tal Yardeni
Acceptance. That I would say is one of the biggest things when I’m coaching women. Acceptance of self. Acceptance that it’s over, and acceptance of who their partner was because what happens is that when we tend to break up or get a divorce or a separation, we start to romanticize that person, which means that we look at just the good parts. And it’s not about villainizing your ex, but it’s really seeing your ex in his her totality. There were things that weren’t working. There were things that led you to this point. But what happens is our brain really wants to just hang on to those good times. And so that’s where I find that women get stuck because they’ve now made their partners out to be the best thing in the world. And then we have to really look at it and take honest inventory and get them to a place where they can look at it and see it for what it was. Take the good with you, the bad we’re leaving. And to actually move forward instead of having that good, keeping you in your past stuck and wanting to go back to that relationship, because that’s all you seem to remember. It’s like this amnesia we’ve just gotten. And listen, I’ve done it myself, so I really understand where it comes from. And it is it’s really protecting us from our pain, because that pain is so it’s overwhelming at times and it’s so intense. So…

Gloria Grace Rand
I’m sorry… I was just going to say, is it maybe also the fear? I mean, fear of starting a life on your own?

Tal Yardeni
Of course. Acceptance is one thing, fear is another. Because you’re grieving now. You had this whole vision for what your life was going to be, and now in an instant, it’s no longer right? So that’s so scary. That’s like someone losing if someone loses their job, major things that happen in our lives, it’s very scary. From a spiritual perspective, it can be beautiful and a clean slate, but it doesn’t mean that in the moment, it’s like, holy crap, what’s next? Where do I go from here? This plan, this future that I saw with this person is no longer. I had built a future in my head of what our lives were going to look like together. And now that’s been taken from me. Where do I go from here?

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, it is definitely something that I’ve worked through. And what’s interesting, and maybe you can speak to this as well, is because I believe it is similar to grief, that there are these waves where you feel like you’ve got everything together, and then all of a sudden, perhaps, you’re having to figure something out, like looking at your financials. And then it’s like, oh, God, what am I doing? Have you found that in, in…?

Tal Yardeni
Oh, my God. Yes. And I completely agree with you. It’s grieving. It’s a grieving process. And I always say it is like a death, except the person is still alive. And so absolutely, you’ll be making headway. And then something happens. Perhaps a song comes on, a movie that’s familiar to you. You’re walking down the street and it’s your favorite restaurant. It could be the smallest of things, and it can really just take you back and you feel like you’re at square one again. And that’s why I find it so helpful to get help when you’re going through something like this, because you need to be reminded that, yes, it’s okay that you’re going to have this and let’s process your feelings and move through it. But you’re not at square one because you’ve done so much to move forward. And it’s totally normal that something like that would bring you back and that we don’t need to shame ourselves again or blame ourselves and say, oh my gosh, I thought I was so much further along. Why am I feeling this way? And then we’re blaming ourselves for having the feeling, and then you’re getting stuck in the feeling because you’re not having acceptance around the feeling.

Gloria Grace Rand
Oh, yes. Been there, done that. I can relate.

Tal Yardeni
As have I.

Gloria Grace Rand
Right.

Tal Yardeni
It’s totally normal, but we just need an outside eye to go, you’re not crazy. This is normal. This is part of the process. And all this work that you’ve done is not for nothing.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, thank heavens for that. So important to know that you do, that all this work is paying off. And even if there’s some short term pain, the long term gain can be so so so good. I mean, I was actually just out for a walk earlier before we got on this interview and just going, I love living where I’m living. It’s so nice. I feel so peaceful here. It’s so great. So there’s hope.
Tal Yardeni
Absolutely.
Gloria Grace Rand
There’s hope for you. I wanted to ask you about if someone is coming to you and they’re working with you about this, what is like, the first thing that you either help people with or what are the first things that maybe even, like, a limiting belief or what’s the word? I’m looking for some kind of commonly held belief that they have that needs to be changed. How do you deal with that?

Tal Yardeni
That’s a great question. So one of the first things is that we work on giving yourself closure, because there’s this misconception that we need closure from our ex in order to move on. And that’s one of the things that will keep a woman stuck, is that she thinks she needs to have that one last conversation or that apology, something like that, where she feels, until I get that, then I’ll be able to move on. But until then, I can’t move on. And so I really help you to give yourself closure. And that’s super important because we want you standing in your power. So when we’re waiting for someone else to give us the okay to move on, we’re giving our power away. But when we say, okay, I am taking ownership of this. I am looking at my side of the street. I am looking at how I contributed. And it’s again, not to blame yourself, but again, awareness is super important. Then you can say, I don’t need that apology because I know what’s true for me, and I don’t need them to tell me that I know what they did, that they know what they did was wrong because I know it was wrong, or I know what it was for me, and that’s enough. And so that’s enough for me to actually move on.

Gloria Grace Rand
Do you find that it makes a difference at all between a person instigating a breakup or a divorce or it happening to them?

Tal Yardeni
I actually think both are equally as hard. I think it takes a tremendous amount of courage and bravery to walk away from something. And I think it’s also equally as hard when it’s been taken away from you. So there is this misconception that if you’ve walked away, it must be easier to move through it. No, it’s not. And I’m sure that you can attest to that. Right. And I’ve had my own experiences where I walked away. I wasn’t broken up with, I walked away. And those were some of the most painful heartbreaks for me.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. I think it is, as you were talking about earlier, that you have this idea of how things were going to be. And either you may feel like you’re a failure now, perhaps because you’re just throwing in the towel in a way, and at the same time, it’s not that because you are choosing you, you’re choosing to be able to say, no, this is not the life I want, even though I thought it was at the time. But things have changed and I need to be kinder to me. Which brings me to my next question, because it was something I think you talk about, that you say that self-love as we know it is BS. So I’m a big proponent of self-love. So I would love to know what you mean by that and yet that it’s still helpful.

Tal Yardeni
Yeah. So we tend to confuse self-care with self-love. And so self-care is, I’m going to go and get a massage, I’m going to go and treat myself. And all of those things are lovely. I’m going to take myself on a trip. Love all of those things. But that is not where deep healing lies. True self-love is when you no longer abandon yourself. You become your number one. You put yourself first. As women, we are not taught that. In fact, it’s usually the opposite. We are the last, we are the caregivers. We take care of everyone else. We want to make sure that everyone else is okay. And we kind of put ourselves on the back burner. And I teach you the exact opposite of that. I want you to become your own best friend. Which means how do you talk to yourself? Right? If we listen to that internal dialogue that’s going on all day, if we ever said that to anybody else the way that we speak to ourselves, we would have no friends, no one would speak to us because it is an assault on yourself. And so I’m really teaching you to turn that around and to not really buy into the thoughts the way that we so easily do and to kind of advocate for yourself, not kind of, to advocate for yourself. And that’s super important. And with that comes learning exactly what are my values? Am I living in accordance with them? What are my boundaries? And really living a life that is in integrity with that. Because when you are abandoning yourself, you are going against what you know to be true to yourself. You can’t live in integrity.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. I’m 100% agreeing with all of this, and I’m wondering, how can you help someone do that, though? Because I think it sounds good. Okay, yes, I need to love myself, but in practical terms, how do I go about doing that? Especially if I have been someone who has been always putting others first for so long? What do you say to that?

Tal Yardeni
Absolutely. Yeah. So my program is designed in a way where it really takes you through a process, and part of that process is that I really help you with a morning routine because our mornings are everything. When you look at every major religion or spiritual practice, there’s a reason why the work happens in the morning. It’s because that’s the moment where you can feel the most connected, the most grounded. So let’s say you’re a mother. You’re waking up, you’re taking care of your kids, you’re running around, you’re making lunches, and you’re out the door. Right? And so you’re frazzled. You’re not grounded. You’re not thinking about yourself. You’re just thinking about go go go survival mode, which I understand, and I work with a lot of single moms where I still insist, we need to make this practical for you, and still you need to take that time for yourself because it’s super important. And then they start to see the difference because just even that small shift of taking 15 to 20 minutes in the morning for yourself, you’re telling yourself, I matter. Even if I have 5 billion things going on, and I’ve got to tend to my kids, and I have to go to work, and I’m running a business, whatever it is, I’m still going to take that time for myself so it’s really a reprogramming.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. And I think you mentioned something so important there about 15 minutes. I think that’s where people get hung up. They think it has to be, oh, I’ve got to spend an hour or even half an hour, and it’s like, I don’t have time for that. I’ve got to do all this stuff.

Tal Yardeni
Right.

Gloria Grace Rand
So, so 15 minutes is probably enough. And you can certainly get up a little bit earlier to give yourself that present.

Tal Yardeni
Absolutely. And when you do that for yourself you’re going to have such a different day. Right? Things that might have gotten to you, you become less impulsive. You’re able to think for a moment. Things will go your way, people will be kinder to you because you have a different energy about you.

Gloria Grace Rand
Absolutely. You’re singing my song because I make sure that I do. I have lots of things that I love to do in the morning, but my one non-negotiable is meditation. Yeah, that is it. I’ll feed the cats first, but then I sit down and I meditate, and I like to journal. I may or may not do that. I usually like to spend some time reading, even those days, sometimes I may not do that. But the meditation, I’ve got to have that that sets my foundation.

Tal Yardeni
It’s a non-negotiable.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. And that’s so important. It’s so disappointing, I guess would be a good word to say that I guess we’re raised to not necessarily think that we’re entitled to that, almost. And unfortunately, because it’s been modeled that way, I think, from our parents or our moms who took care of the kids and whatnot. And so, I’m so grateful for people like you, and I humbly say me too, who are encouraging women out there to do that, to put yourself first, just like they do on the airplane when they say to put the oxygen mask on, you’ve got to do that so that then you can take care of everybody else.

Tal Yardeni
Absolutely. And then let’s say that you do have children and you’re modeling this to them and you’re showing them what it’s like to put yourself first. Everything that we do is going to affect our children in some way, so why not model this behavior? It’s one of the best things you can do. It’s so healthy and it’s not taught. And it makes all the difference in the world. We’re not saying become selfish human beings that don’t care about anybody else, but how can I give to you if I have nothing inside, if I’m completely depleted?

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. And I still love the I bring this up from time to time. It was something that I don’t know if you listen to Esther Hicks and Abraham.

Tal Yardeni
I just saw her live, like, two months ago, I believe.

Gloria Grace Rand
Oh, lucky you. How wonderful. I was supposed to see her live, and then the pandemic happened, and so I missed that. But she’s brought up the fact that when someone calls you selfish, it’s because they want you to do something that they want. So isn’t it they’re being selfish?

Tal Yardeni
It’s so true. And she said that live, and everyone laughs because it’s so true. But you don’t think about it that way.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, absolutely.

Tal Yardeni
We think we’re like selfless human beings, and we’re just doing everything that everyone else wants us to do, what’s expected of us. And then we’re wondering why we’re burnt out.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. And that is such well, not going to use that word. I was going to use a word that we’ve dealt with in the last couple of years. We won’t go there. But there’s a tendency, let’s say a great tendency for so many of us to do that. I think we touched on this a little bit, but I want to have you really hammer it home for our audience. What’s the number one thing that keeps people from moving on, and what can you do about it?

Tal Yardeni
There are a few things, but one of them, like I mentioned before, it really is acceptance. And then the other thing that I hear so much, I am never going to have a love like this again. I’m never going to find someone else. I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. That was as good as it was going to get for me. And so that keeps women from truly wanting to move on because they’re in this lack, I want to say, where they think that was really it. So why is a spiritual practice so important? Because when you understand that you live in an abundant universe and you understand that you’ve just let go of something because it no longer serves you – God, Source, creator, whatever you want to call it, is going to bring you something that is so much better for you and is your energetic match. But you have to ready yourself for that. So if you are still stuck in this, that’s as good as it’s going to get, this is all I deserve. The universe is confused because they’re like, wait, she just did this tremendous thing. She let go of this relationship, but she’s still hanging on. She walked away, but she’s still hanging on thinking, this is as good as it’s going to get. We want to give her the thing that she wants, but where is she? What is she doing to get herself ready for it?

Gloria Grace Rand
So glad you shared that. And it’s something that I’ve gone through in my mind from time to time.

Tal Yardeni
Normal.

Gloria Grace Rand
Wondering again.

Tal Yardeni
Yes, did I make the right

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. The status quo. Is that okay, or do I make the complete break? And what would you say, what would you say to someone like that who’s pondering that?

Tal Yardeni
Well, I would ask you, when you chose to walk away, I’m sure being a spiritual person, there was a conversation, there was prayer, there was meditation, there was reflection. Did you feel like you received clear guidance?

Gloria Grace Rand
Yes. And I would say it was because of an event that happened. I had been working with a coach for months before this, and she said, you’ll know when it’s time and it was, something happened, and it was like, okay, yeah, I know it’s time. And then there’s still the practical things that you need to go through, like figuring out finances, figuring out if you’re married with children, for instance, or even if you’re living together with children, then if they’re still young, then you’ve got to be able to deal with that. Figuring out things like practical things like child support and all of that fun stuff. So what I’ve come to for myself is that it’s okay. And I’m saying, I’m not stuck. It’s okay to be where I am right now, knowing that I will get to where I want to be. And right now, I’m laying the foundation to do that.

Tal Yardeni
Absolutely.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah.

Tal Yardeni
Absolutely.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. What do you think about that? I don’t feel that I’m justifying it. I do feel that I’m making progress. I go slower at things. And I’m okay with that.

Tal Yardeni
It’s not a race. It really depends on what it is that you want for yourself. Right. So some women come to me, and they really want to be in a loving relationship again, totally okay. Some women come to me and they’re like, I just want to learn how to be okay with being me. I’ve been in relationships all my life and I want to spend some time with me. And so getting into another relationship is not the end goal here. So there’s really no wrong answer. It’s really what is it that you desire for yourself regardless of whether you want to be in a relationship now, later, never. There’s no wrong answer. There’s no shame. It’s whatever that you desire for yourself. But doing this kind of work will ready you in a way where you are going to attract so differently than what you had before, because you’ve really taken that time to tend to yourself. Let’s say you don’t want a relationship. Totally fine. How you do life is going to be different because you think that you’re coming to just heal from a breakup, heal from a separation, heal from a divorce. But this kind of work is going to permeate into every part of your life. Everything is connected.

Gloria Grace Rand
That’s for sure. And I can attest to that. Again. Even though I’m separated and not divorced yet. I have just seen so much wonderful things start coming into my life and even just me coming into me. I guess I could say is that I have really learned to love myself so much more and that I’m able to now step out and do the things that I was hiding from. I conducted a retreat last year that was something I’d been wanting to do for years and years. And I finally said, enough is enough. I’m going to create a retreat and I’m going to invite people. And I had people come to my retreat and it was wonderful and awesome. And I’m doing the things I need to do in my business now that I’ve been again, was just not doing. So I feel that that’s part of my journey right now is taking care of myself and taking care of myself so that I’m putting the foundation in to really financially take care of myself so that then I can then say, okay, I’m standing on my own two feet. Now we can do. We’re going to make this a permanent thing. And it’s been helping him learn too, frankly. He’s done a lot of growth in learning to take care of himself. And the things that I used to do for him, he’s having to learn how to do. So I think it really is good for both of us what has happened. Enough of my story but.

Tal Yardeni
I love this though. I mean, I think it’s really important for your listeners to hear because there’s not just one way to heal and it looks, it will look different to each person and that’s okay. So there’s no like, am I doing this wrong? Your process, your journey is your journey. So it sounds like where you are is in a beautiful spot because you sound like you’re very connected to self with a capital S.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yes.

Tal Yardeni
And so maybe there was a point before in the marriage where you felt very disconnected, which is probably why you didn’t feel motivated in certain areas. And so now it looks like you’re super motivated and passionate about what it is that you’re doing.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, absolutely. 100%. That describes it to a T. So I want to just not exactly change gears but just want to talk about you for a little bit just to find out. I love asking my guests about this because I get such a range of answers. So I would love to know what are you curious about right now?

Tal Yardeni
What am I curious about? Oh, I like this question. I am curious about world travel because I used to travel all the time and then the Pandemic happened and I haven’t been abroad since and so I want to know where am I going next? I am curious about cultivating new friendships because I’ve had people in my life for so long that I love dearly. But living in a new place, I would love to cultivate some deepened friendships. And I am curious about relationships in general because I find people to be fascinating. So I always love to be learning and growing in that way. And I find that then I’m always surprised when I think that I know something and then something happens and I’m like, oh, guess I don’t know as much as I did.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah. That’s life. That’s part of living and growing. So it’s always good to know that. I want to ask you something else, because you mentioned at the beginning that you were a performer, and then, of course, the pandemic really put a kibosh on that. And I have a friend who went through that too. And then she wound up doing a whole bunch of YouTube videos. Really creative stories that she would tell to be able to keep herself out there. So when the work you’re doing now compared to what you were doing then, how does it compare? Are you happy now that you’ve I mean, I’m sure you are happy now, but I guess how does it compare and maybe even do you still use a bit of what you were trained to do before in this work now?

Tal Yardeni
Yeah, I love this question. So I can’t compare anything to performing because the feeling it’s very euphoric. There’s just really nothing like it. But one of the things that I loved about performing is that I felt like I was helping people because I know what it’s like to sit as an audience member and be taken away for 2 hours. I know what it’s like to sit and watch something that’s so thought provoking that it makes me think about something in a different way. So in that way it completely relates to what I’m doing today because I’m being of service in a different way. I’m helping expand people’s minds to a different way of thinking. So in that way I think it is similar. And I am using my creative side in my business on my Instagram. So sometimes I will sing a song that is related to what I want to talk about. Sometimes I have a character that I created, her name is Shirley. She’s Shirley from Jersey. And I will drive a message home in maybe like a sassier way. And so I get to you know, put my actor hat on. So there are different you know ways that I find to sprinkle in my creativity into what I’m doing today.

Gloria Grace Rand
I love that. And I want people who are listening and watching this to know that everything we go through in our life, I really do feel that it is preparing us for the next step and that we’re able to take our experience that we’ve had or education that we’ve had and still use it even if something happens. Like going from being a performer to being a coach. Bit of a major pivot. And yet you’re still able to use the gifts that you have, the talents that you have in this new creative way to be able to then help people, as you say. And I just love it. I just feel that there is like this grand design that we come in with and there’s little sometimes things don’t, but for the most part things will work out that way. Because I’ve had it in my life. I’ve seen it from where I was started out as a business administration major, flunked out in that, switched to television and then worked for a business news show and then wound up going into business for myself. But I’ve also have using other gifts that I use now as well because I love performing too. Maybe at some point, maybe when I retire, maybe I’ll finally do acting, I don’t know.

Tal Yardeni
I love it.

Gloria Grace Rand
Because I studied it in college and I’m always so fascinated. I’m always watching anything like just interviews with actors and directors and I’m just totally always fascinated by that business. But for whatever reason, didn’t get in it. But it’s okay.

Tal Yardeni
Never too late.

Gloria Grace Rand
That’s right. And I’m dealing with television in a sense now because I do a podcast and so I’m doing videos, right. So I’m still using some of what I learned way back when. So it’s all good. Is there anything that I should have asked that I didn’t or any other last bit of advice that you’d love to leave our audience with?

Tal Yardeni
I would say that to be gentle with yourself. If you’re going through a breakup or a separation or divorce, really be gentle with yourself, be gentle with the process. Know that some days are going to be better than others and that’s okay. And I really do encourage you to seek the support because we think that just time is going to heal. Time will lessen the wound, time will lessen the pain but if you really want to actually heal and move forward in your life, it’s going to require work on your part. And so I urge you to take that time for yourself. You owe it to yourself. You are important, you matter. And take that time to heal the parts of you that perhaps feel that it was my fault, I deserved this. It’s never going to get any better. My life is ruined. So that you can really live a life of abundance and a life where you feel at peace and a life where you feel true joy. And it’s not just because you’re in a relationship.

Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, absolutely. Because the one relationship that we have our whole lives is with ourselves.

Tal Yardeni
Exactly.

Gloria Grace Rand
So we need to be able to honor that and take care of it and nurture it. And as you mentioned earlier, self-care is great, but self-love even more important to really, really love yourself. And that’s my mission, too, is to help women in particular to do that. And there’s men out there who need some help with that, I think, too. It’s not as something society doesn’t necessarily or our culture doesn’t necessarily think it’s important, but it is. Any of you guys out there listening to this, you need to love yourselves too, very much.

Tal Yardeni
Yeah, amen.

Gloria Grace Rand
If someone has been listening to this, I know that I think you have something for our audience. And if people want to be able to maybe follow you on Instagram, so what is the best place for people to do that?

Tal Yardeni
So if you want to connect with me on Instagram, you can find me at TheTalYardeni. Feel free to DM me. And if you have a specific question about what you’re going through, how to move forward, I always respond, so don’t be shy. And then I also have a free guide for your audience. It’s called the four ways to move through heartbreak. And that should be in the show notes, I believe. And it’s really tangible steps to move through that will be super helpful.

Gloria Grace Rand
Well, there we go. Lost what button I was supposed to push there. Well, thank you so much. And yes, I will have all of that information in the show notes. So if you are listening to this somewhere where you aren’t able to get a pen handy or jump on your computer, just go to Liveloveengagepodcast.com and you’ll be able to get all that information as well as check out any past episodes. So thank you so much for being here today. It was wonderful. I love everything that you’re doing, and I love that it’s, you’re emphasizing the spiritual side of it, really, and the importance of nurturing ourselves, but also building or strengthening perhaps a connection to source to be able to help you get through this. Because you don’t have to go through these types of situations alone. There is support from people like yourself as well as your higher power.

Tal Yardeni
Absolutely. Thank you so much, Gloria, for having me. I love that you wanted to talk about this.

Gloria Grace Rand
Well, I thank you. And I also want to thank all those of you out there watching and listening. And I so appreciate each and every one of you and you make it worthwhile for me to do this every day. So now I guess what I’m going to leave you with is my traditional ending. For those of you for the first time hearing it, I just encourage everyone out there to go out and live fully, love deeply and engage authentically.
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About the Author
Known as The Insightful Copywriter, Gloria Grace Rand is also an inspirational speaker, author and host of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast. Prior to launching her SEO Copywriting business in 2009, Gloria spent nearly two decades in television, most notably as writer and producer for the award-winning PBS financial news program, “Nightly Business Report.”

Gloria turned to writing as a way to communicate, since growing up with an alcoholic father and abusive mother taught her that it was safer to be seen and not heard. But not speaking her truth caused Gloria problems such as overeating, control issues, and an inability to fully trust people. After investing in coaching & personal development programs, and studying spiritual books like “A Course in Miracles,” Gloria healed her emotional wounds. Today, she helps entrepreneurs develop clarity, confidence and connection to the truth of who you are, so you can create a business that has more impact, influence and income!

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