Are you ready to learn the techniques coaches use to help kids develop self-confidence? For the last decade, personal development expert Renaye Thornborrow has been leading a worldwide movement to bring life coaching to kids. I talked with Renaye Thornborrow in a recent episode of Live. Love. Engage. about her Bounce Back Formula – a solution that kids and adults can use to develop resilience, confidence, and success. Be sure to read on to learn more about this incredible system!
About Renaye Thornborrow
Renaye Thornborrow is an inspiring figure leading a worldwide movement to bring life coaching to kids. Since 2013, her company has certified hundreds of coaches in over 30 countries, empowering children and helping them create a business they love. A personal development expert, member of the ICF, and a former three-year board member for the Association of Coach Training Organizations, Renaye is committed to helping children build their self-esteem and confidence, resilience, and self-leadership skills. Through her innovative approach, she is helping children develop the Mindset Skills they need to navigate life’s challenges and achieve their goals.
Why is it important for coaches to help kids develop self-confidence?
Self-confidence is a crucial piece of a child’s development, and coaches can play an important role in helping kids build their confidence. Coaches can provide kids with a safe and supportive environment to take risks, try new things, and learn from mistakes. This helps kids build self-confidence by showing them that it’s okay to make mistakes and that those mistakes are simply opportunities for growth. Coaches can also give kids positive reinforcement and praise for the work they do, which can help them develop a sense of pride and become more confident in their abilities.
It’s also important for coaches to help kids develop self-confidence because it can have a lasting impact on their overall well-being. Self-confidence can help kids navigate life’s challenges and make better decisions. It can also help kids form healthy relationships with their peers and adults, as well as be more successful in the classroom. Ultimately, self-confidence can be a powerful tool in helping kids become well-rounded and successful individuals. Life coaches can play a critical role in helping kids build the confidence they need to reach their goals.
Here are the 5 Rs that comprise Renaye Thornborrow’s Bounce Back Formula for developing resilience:
1. Reset the brain
When you want to effectively solve a problem that occurs during a big situation, it is important to reset the brain and calm down. When something unexpected happens, the brain often shifts from critical reasoning to fight or flight mode, making it difficult to think clearly. One simple way to reset the brain is to take five slow, deep breaths while placing a hand on the heart. This helps reengage the parasympathetic nervous system and get back into the frontal lobes where critical thinking occurs. For some people, additional processing methods like working out, journaling, or talking to a friend may also be helpful. It is important to allow oneself to feel upset but keeping it short and processing it quickly is key to moving forward.
2. Reframe what happened
The second step of the “Bounce Back Formula” is to reframe what happened because events in life are neutral, but we as human beings define them as either good or bad based on how we choose to think about them. So at Renaye’s company, Adventures in Wisdom, kids are taught to put on their power goggles. And what that means is to ask yourself, how can I look at this in a way that empowers me?
Kids are encouraged to practice scenarios where they put on their victim goggles and look at a scenario from a negative or victim standpoint, and then put on their power goggles, so they can practice looking at the same thing from an empowered standpoint. It could be something like failing a test or losing a ball game, while for entrepreneurs it could be a failed launch.
3. Remap what you want to do
The third step requires you to ask yourself, why are you going on this journey in the first place. Sometimes for people when they take a big hit, they might do an evaluation, decide this isn’t important to me anymore. But for most people, once they’ve had a chance to settle down, get back into their frontal lobes, it is still important. In that case, you need to remap and ask, where do I go from now? Where do I go from here? How do I map my plan? What will our next steps be?
This gets your brain in action and you can start building neural pathways within the brain to say, “Okay, this is how I’m going to get there.” So it helps us calm down because we know what our actions are going to be. This also triggers the reticular activating system in the brain which is the internal radar that starts looking for things at both a conscious and subconscious level to help make our dreams come true and achieve our goals.
4. Reprogram our brain
Now that we have our new action steps, we can reprogram our brain with positive self-talk, visualization and affirmations which can strengthen those neural pathways over and over again. Our vision gets to be bigger than our circumstances. We get to have our dreams. But the thing is, we have to know what that path is. We have to program our brain to see ourselves as already achieving our goals of being successful.
5. Restart
The final step in building resilience is to restart – or be in action because action builds confidence. Even though it can take time to recover from a setback, traumatic event or loss, your situation can improve if you work at. It takes time and practice.
It is important to remember that resilience is a skill that is developed over time, so it is important to be patient and practice the five Rs on a regular basis. Additionally, it is helpful to have a support system of friends, family, and professionals who can provide guidance, support, and encouragement. Having a strong support system can help motivate you to build resilience and face challenging situations with confidence.
Building self-confidence is a crucial piece of a child’s development, and coaches can play an important role in helping kids build their confidence. The Bounce Back Formula helps to reframe the challenge, set new goals, and take action to move forward. Additionally, activities that bring joy, relaxation, and purpose can help to reenergize and motivate. With the right tools, you too can unlock resilience, confidence, and success.
I’d love to hear how you apply Bounce Back Formula in your life. Leave me a comment on how it went for you or drop any questions you want me to answer!
