When life feels scattered after 50, your instinct might be to “fix” everything fast – your relationships, your work, your next step. But what if it’s not about fixing what’s broken? Maybe it’s about removing what’s blocking the real you from emerging.
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If you’re a woman over 50 whose life looks “fine” on the outside yet inside, something feels unsettled, foggy, or unfinished, you’ll want to listen today. We explore why midlife transitions like empty nest, divorce, identity changes can make your world feel chaotic, and how you can lean into the first pillar of the L.O.V.E. Method – “Let go and Let God” for support. I’ll share how Michael Singer’s teachings on removing blocks instead of fixing problems inspired this episode, and why midlife chaos is often an invitation to rediscover who you are beneath the roles you’ve played.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why midlife chaos isn’t “you falling apart” – it’s often your soul asking for recalibration
- Why asking “Why am I not okay?” instead of “How do I fix this?” changes everything
- How “Let Go and Let God” can become “Let go and let God emerge through you,” by releasing the inner blocks that keep you disconnected from yourself
- Simple ways to make space for clarity (even if you don’t meditate
- How Light Language serves as energetic support to help release what’s keeping you stuck
If you stopped trying to “fix” your life for a moment… what truth might finally have room to find you?
Resources & links mentioned:
Michael Singer Podcast: Allowing Life to Remove Your Blockages
Gloria’s Book: “Live Love Engage: How to Stop Doubting Yourself and Start Being Yourself”
Pam Gregory YouTube Channel: @PamGregoryOfficial
Lee Harris website: leeharrisenergy.com
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TRANSCRIPT – Midlife Purpose After 50: Remove the Blocks, Find You
Opening and Welcome
Namaste.
It’s not unusual for your life to feel a bit scattered after you turn 50. You know, we’re dealing with a lot of life challenges, like your kids leave home or your relationship with a spouse changes. Maybe one of you retires and is home all the time.
Maybe you’re feeling like there’s something inside of you, like your soul is calling you to do something. Even though you, you’re probably quite happy with their life the way it is, but there’s still this little niggling inside of you that says there’s something more. You need to be doing something. Even though you, you’re probably quite happy with their life the way it is, but there’s still this little niggling inside of you that says there’s something more. You need to be doing something else or something in addition. But there’s something more, but you don’t know what it is. And that can be extremely frustrating.
I know, I’ve been there. So we’re going to be talking about this today. We’re going to be talking about how to find some clarity in that chaos and how the L in my love method, L. O. V. E. love is an acronym, can actually help you do that.
What is the L.O.V.E. Method?
So if you are new to the podcast, you know, I’m not, I’m not new to podcasting, but this iteration is new. So you may not know what the love method is.
What the heck is that? Well, it’s something that I wrote about in my best selling book, Live Love Engage how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself. And I’ll just go through it briefly because we’re going to focus on only we’re going to focus on the L today. So the L stands for let go and let God. The O is open your heart to receive.
The V is value your uniqueness. And the E is embrace your divinity.
And I’m not even going to telling you how this all came to be either right now, but maybe, maybe another episode. I will, but we’re just gonna go, go back through this.
Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs After 50
So I, I said that. So the L, we’re going to start right there to the L. When I wrote the book in particular, and this is going back, I started working on the book seriously in like 2019, 2020. And to me at the time, Let Go and Let God was about letting go of limiting beliefs, letting go of attachment to the outcome.
And, and that’s still what it is. And when you do that, when you can let go of limiting beliefs that for instance, that you’re too old to do something, maybe you have, maybe you had an old dream that you put on the shelf to do other stuff like work on a career or raise a family or something like that. In fact, a couple episodes ago I talked about age in that context.
So it’s, it can be about letting go of limiting beliefs. And, and when you can do that, it does help you. When you can then let, let turn it over to God or your higher power universe, however you want to call it. That’s. That is that first step in being able to start having some clarity.
There’s more to it than that, obviously, but that’s a start.
A New Understanding: Let Go and Let God Emerge
But what I realized today, and, and that’s what’s so beautiful. It’s so beautiful about life and, and, and even having, having this wonderful gift of the love method that came to me way back when in 2016, as a matter of fact, is that it continually evolves. I am always peeling back the layers like an onion and realizing that there’s more to it.
My Morning Walk and Michael Singer’s Wisdom
So today I go for a walk every morning, so just to set the stage on most mornings, if the weather is decent.
And so I went out for a walk this morning and I like to listen to usually some type of inspirational messaging or videos maybe on YouTube. I, I like listening to Pam Gregory sometimes. She’s an astrologer. I like Lee Harris. He’s someone who channels.
And I wasn’t finding anything good as I was going through there until I happened to come across a Michael Singer podcast. And I’ve read a couple of. I think I’ve read three of his books. I, I think I own two of them. So if you, if you don’t know who Michael Singer is, I highly recommend you check him out.
He’s a wonderful author. He’s follows the Buddhist philosophy. He actually lives here in Florida. I actually got to meet him in person one time. I attended his services that he hosts on, on Sundays.
Why Am I Not Okay? The Question That Changes Everything
And so I’m listening to this podcast and he is talking about why what we do when we’re not feeling okay and how we look for things to fix us, you know, or. But we’re basically putting a band aid on it. So, for example, say that you are in this challenge right now where you’re unhappy in your marriage. I can relate to that. I, I felt that way for a long time.
And you just, you know, you’re so unhappy. So you’re not okay because you’re unhappy. And so you just decide, okay, that’s it. You know what? I’m gonna end this marriage right now.
I’m gonna go get a divorce. Well, in the podcast, he’s saying, you’re just, that’s just how to fix. I’m not okay. Isn’t the question that we should be asking Instead, the question we should be asking is why am I not okay?
Because that’s a different answer. You know, the how is just the, you know, how do I fix this? How do I fix this? But why am I feeling this way? And I encourage you to even think about this right now.
If your life is feeling a bit chaotic and it’s feeling scattered and you don’t know where to find your, your North Star, you’ve lost it somewhere. Ask yourself why.
My Personal Story: Forgetting to Love Myself
So for me, especially where it related to my marriage, my. Why was that?
I had, I had forgotten.
I’d forgotten that I was just as important in this marriage, frankly. Yeah, I’m getting teary eyed. So that, that leads me to. I’m on the right track here.
I’d forgotten who I was. And, and the reason I’d forgotten is I’d stopped loving myself. I wasn’t putting myself first. I was always just going along with the flow. Whatever he wanted was fine.
And rarely, I mean, occasionally I would say this is what I wanted, but more often than not, I was just putting up with stuff. I was settling and that’s not a good way to be.
Removing the Blocks: The Michelangelo Analogy
So anyway, so he’s talking about. Yeah, so asking yourself, why? Why am I not okay? And then he started talking about, Why are we not okay? Is because there are blocks.
And, and yeah, and I had put up a big block of where I’d forgotten who I was really. And I, I had blocked off the part of me that loved me, you know, that loving, loving myself. And so he then uses the analogy of Michelangelo and how he, you know, he, when he was sculpting something that he, he saw in his mind’s eye what it was. But he had to, he, he would just remove everything that wasn’t part of that finished sculpture. And so we have to remove those blocks to let ourselves emerge.
Which gets me back to the L in the love method. Because what I realized today and listening to him, see if I can. Now that I’m thinking about it, I should make a note that. To put the link to that episode in the show notes today, that would probably be helpful. I think it’ll be helpful for you.
So I want to find that my little Singer one. I’ll see if I can find it and put it in the show notes. I want to take a note right now. Oh, I’m thinking about it so I don’t forget about it.
Let Go and Let God Emerge: A Fresh Perspective
Anyway, so the L, it dawned on me was to let go and let God emerge.
Because Michael Singer says that, you know, he believes that we Are God. And so when we remove those blocks, it’s. For me, again, what I felt is that I am letting God emerge from me. And. And I know some people are like, oh, how can you say that’s blasphemous?
I’m not God. Well, I think Jesus said it. Well, you know, I am the vine and you are the branches. Yeah. Think of it as that God is.
Is the vine or a tree. Let’s be even more majestic about it. God is a tree and we are the branches.
So.
The tree has, you know, trees have branches and that’s what all of us are. I mean. I mean, okay, heck, you know, we talk about a family tree, don’t we, Right? And all of these different relatives are part of our family tree. Well, I believe now, this is.
Again, this is my belief. You can take it or leave it. It’s okay if, you know, if you’re atheist or whatever, it’s okay, you know, but this is my belief that God is the head of my family tree. And. And so, yes.
So then all of the people that I’m related to are all of the different branches. And, and if we trace back generations, you know, we’re all. We are all related at some point. We are all humans and we all share the same DNA that, you know, the. Those basic molecules that we are made of, they may look differently, I think, maybe, possibly, or in different orders.
I don’t remember exactly my biology, so I don’t want to. I don’t want to go that far, but. But you get my drift, right? We’re all human beings. We’re all flesh and blood.
We all have. No matter what the outside of us may look like inside. Inside we are very close to being alike. But we have different upbringings. We have different.
We’re related to different people. We came from different parts of the world. And so that does create this unique tapestry that we are all woven a part of. And.
How to Find Clarity Through Chaos at Midlife
Okay, so how do I get back to finding the clarity right through chaos? What does let go and let God emerge have to do with all this? Gloria, I will tell you. I will tell you. So.
The Power of Allowing and Accepting
When you can let go of the things that let go of these blocks, let go of the.
Let go of the things that bother you. And I know that sounds easily said than done, right? Yeah. But when I say let go, it’s more about allowing and accepting. It’s about.
It’s just about allowing whatever is bothering you to be there to make friends with it or at least just acknowledge it and just say, okay, I See you, I feel you, and just let it be part of you. Because when you get into this, I gotta fix it and I gotta make it go away. And I don’t want to feel this way. And believe me, I’ve been there. I was having that a little bit last week, as a matter of fact.
What you resist, persists.
It’s true. It’s true. What you resist, persists.
Be Still and Know: Creating Space for Clarity
So just notice it instead. Notice when you’re feeling frustrated. Notice when you’re feeling sad. Notice when you’re feeling scattered. Notice when you’re feeling like, I know there’s more to life, but I don’t know what it is.
Okay, notice it, sit with it and be still. And know. It’s a great phrase. Be still, Allowing yourself that time to just sit with whatever is going on. Not to engage it, not to try to fix it, but just to allow it into your life.
It gives you space to then let it go. Give it up to God or source, whatever, and just say, I. I don’t know why I’m feeling this way. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what my life’s purpose is. I know there should something more.
I know I. I feel like I should be doing something else, but I don’t know what it is.
And then just say, okay, you know what?
Yeah, that’s how I feel. Help. And then just kind of like, okay, I’m gonna just. I’m just gonna let it. Let it be.
It’s Okay to Not Know Your Next Step
And give yourself that grace to not know. Like, I’ve been talking about this. I think. I think in that same episode, one of the other ones I’ve talked about, you know, it’s okay to not know. It’s okay not to know your next step.
Sometimes that’s how you find the clarity, is by not knowing. In fact, I would say a lot of times that’s how you find the clarity is first you got to just accept that you don’t know. I don’t know what I don’t know. And then that gives space for God, your higher self to emerge, ideas to emerge.
Opening Your Heart to Receive Ideas and Inspiration
And then you can get into the O of love, which is open your heart to receive.
And then you open your heart to receive these ideas. As I tell you, some of my best ideas have come while I’ve been meditating. And I know not everybody likes to meditate. And. And you may have this idea of meditating is just sitting in a fetal position, you know, and going home.
That’s nice. I actually listened to an OM video this morning while I was meditating.
But it could be simply going for a walk, it could be taking a bath, taking a shower. I’ve had ideas come into my head while I’m in the shower. Really great ideas when you focus on something else. And this is where that wonderful practice of mindfulness comes in. When you focus on, are being mindful about doing the dishes, let’s say, where you’re really concentrating on washing each dish and getting all the food off and then rinsing it.
And that’s all you’re focusing on. It frees up the brain to then come up with wonderful ideas for you. And, and that’s where then that clarity comes through.
Because trying to force it sometimes you might be able to get solutions that way. But really it’s going to be stressful and it’s going to be. I, I believe, and again, this is just my belief in my experience that it takes a lot longer that way. But when you just let go and let God emerge, then that’s where that clarity comes from. So it really starts with letting go.
And.
Navigating Loss and Life Transitions After 50
One of the challenges that also happens to all of us as we get older, certainly, and, and women in particular is that one of the things, I think one of the triggers, I think that causes us to start re examining our life and saying is this all there is is when we go through some type of loss, whether it is losing a spouse, losing a significant loved one, a family member, losing a really good friend, maybe someone you’ve known since childhood and, and, and, and now they’ve, you know, the transitions, whether suddenly or, or not, maybe they’ve had a long illness or maybe you, you’ve, maybe you’ve been working at a corporate job and you’ve been downsized. That’s no fun. That can make you start to really grieve that loss of identity or becoming an empty nester. All of these things can cause this chaos and cause your life to feel scattered.
Introducing the Good Grief Retreat for Women Over 50
And my good friend Patricia Alton and I were talking about this a few years ago and especially because we, you know, had come out of COVID and, and real. And just all the things that were going on, they’re still even going on in our world right now. A lot of anxiety, a lot of frustration, a lot of division, especially here in the United States where I live, and a lot of grief. People were feeling a lot of grief. And, and, and women in particular.
Well, yeah, it’s probably an equal opportunity, but we’re women. We want to serve women. So we came up with this wonderful idea to plan a retreat where Women, because this is for women. Because we do have a. A lodge that we’re hosting the retreat at in North Carolina, and that it’s a.
An opportunity for women to come together and get some healing and some renewal.
Reframing Grief as Growth and Transformation
And I saw a lovely comment today about grief, and they were talking about a book, but it, it really struck me because I know some people see. They see good grief retreat, which is the name of our retreat, and they think, ah, grief. I don’t know that that’s something I want to deal with. I don’t know that I want to, you know, spend a weekend talking about grief.
You know, it seems kind of heavy, and I get that, and it can be. And I invite you to consider it differently. And what this person posted today was that it’s not about grief. It’s about growth.
It’s about choosing to pause, reflect, and face what’s real so you can move forward with clarity and purpose. And that’s what we’re going to be doing. That’s what we’re going to help the wonderful women who come to our retreat. We have room for 15 people, and it’s going to be at the end of June in North Carolina, in the mountains in North Carolina. You can go to goodgrief retreat.net and get all the information about it.
And, and actually on an upcoming episode of design your life your way, I am going to be interviewing the other three facilitators of our wonderful retreat, and we’re going to go into more detail about what you can expect. So if you’re not subscribed to the podcast yet, you might want to do that now so that you will be notified when that episode drops. So if you want to learn more, because of course you can learn about the retreat on the website, but this way you’ll get a chance to meet all of us. And hopefully, if you resonate with one or more of us, then it will. You may feel that call to sign up and.
And come join us.
Additional Practices for Finding Clarity: Meditation and Journaling
So, yeah, that’s what I want to talk about today. So I want to talk about one other thing, actually, about how also that you can help. Another way that I’ve found to help gain some clarity when your life is feeling scattered. And that’s through a practice in addition to meditation, which I definitely believe is a great way to, you know, to be still.
And also journaling is another one that I love to do, too, where you can really get in touch with that inner part of you that the. The inner wisdom that you have inside of you that sometimes needs a Little coaxing to get out. So journaling is one way that you can do that.
Light Language: An Energy Healing Modality for Releasing Blocks
But another way that I’ve found is through practice of light language. Sharing light language.
And this is something that I speak and I sing and it’s a multi dimensional language. So it’s something that, when I speak it and sing it, it’s not necessarily something that I, I can translate. I get, I get ideas about what, what it is, but it’s not something I translate word for word.
How Light Language Works to Shift Your Energy
And I would encourage you to, to listen to what I’m going to share with you today, because what I do and when I’m working with my clients, when I’m sharing light language with them, it is to help them to let go of those blocks that we were talking about earlier. Those blocks when you’re not feeling okay. Light language is a powerful way to go in and, and change your energy, change the, your energetic vibe that you have. Because we are energetic beings. We are, we are energy.
And so by sharing this, when you, when you hear it, it’ allows you. Those vibrations are felt by your, by your body and by your, your energetic makeup of your soul. And so it can react to that and it can help you with releasing what’s keeping you stuck, let’s say, and helping to free up the opportunity for some clarity to come through.
Preparing to Receive the Light Language Transmission
Now, I will invite you to pause the podcast right now if you are listening to this, where you are driving the car, because I know we like to multitask sometimes and we, I know I listen to podcasts in the car sometimes. So if you’re driving, put this on pause, go listen to something else and then come back to this later. But don’t forget, don’t forget to come back because it’s, it’s really wonderful if you can be in a place where you can just maybe even listen with headphones on, if you’re not wearing them already, be, you know, in a place where you’re not going to be disturbed and you can just allow what comes through to wash over you because it, it does help you with stress relief too. It’s, it’s a nice way to, way to release stress and so you might feel really relaxed afterwards.
Setting an Intention for Healing and Clarity
So I invite you to set an intention because this is also what I do when I’m doing it for myself and when I’m doing it for clients as I set an intention that the message that you’re going to receive will be for your soul’s highest good and the highest good of all concerned.
So I’m trusting that you’re back now and you’re settled in someplace and, and you might even want to just close your eyes and take a deep breath. I like to do that before I start. Take a deep breath in and let it out.
Let’s do that again. I think I want to do that, too.
Breathing in and breathing out.
Yeah. And I’m setting the intention today that what you, what you’re going to hear today is going to be for your soul’s highest good, help to release anything that is keeping you feeling scattered and chaotic and to allow some clarity to come through, if not today, in the next couple of days in divine order and in divine timing.
[Light Language Transmission]
Closing and Next Steps
Oh, goodness. Okay. I hope you receive that with the love that it was intended. And you might want to listen to this every day. You know, you can just, just listen to Light Language part.
I don’t necessarily expect you to listen to the whole podcast episode over and over again every day, but certainly listen to the Light Language and I would love to know how you felt afterwards. You know, you can, you can contact me, I’m on LinkedIn. You can reach out to me, connect with me there at Gloria Grace Rand. You can go on my website. There’s a lovely little contact form there, contact link, I think a little box maybe somewhere, I’m not sure.
But anyway, you can reach out to me there or reach out to me on YouTube, comment on this video and let me know what your experience was. I would love to know.
Recap: Finding Clarity Through Letting Go and Letting God Emerge
So I hope today that you gain some clarity on how you can gain some clarity through the chaos. And yeah, I, I, I’m so grateful that the universe inspired me today with a new flavor of letting go and letting God, letting it emerge through you. And I think that’s probably going to do it for me for this time.
So I will be back next week, as I say, with some more ideas on how you can make this next chapter of your life the best one yet.