In this episode (recorded LIVE on Facebook), we’re joined by Tasha Chen, co-founder of the Science of Getting Rich Academy, and author of the best-selling book, “Deservingness – The Art of Getting More of What You Want.” Tasha’s mindset philosophy has helped friends, family and her clients shift their perspective on money so they can live a life of abundance.
On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. Podcast:
- Why Tasha wrote her book “Deservingness”
- The defining moment when Tasha realized her own issues with deservingness
- Why so many people struggle to manifest money and a life they desire
- What to do if you are suffering or settling in an area of your life
- How people adopt the belief that they’re not deserving
- What Tasha has changed in her program to ensure her clients succeed
- What the Money Manifesting Party is and how you can join
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Gloria Grace Rand (00:00):
You’re listening to the live love engage podcast. On today’s show, we’ll be talking about what may be keeping you from manifesting your heart’s desire. Stay tuned. I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the love method and author of the number one, Amazon best seller live love, engage how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself. In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully love, deeply and engage authentically. So you can create a life and business with more impact, influence, and income. Welcome to live. Love engage.
Gloria Grace Rand (00:53):
Namaste and we are live again on coming to you. Live on Wednesday morning. Here. I’m live on Facebook on my personal page, my business page glory, grace rand. We’re also streaming live on YouTube as well, and I am so excited to be here today. I’ve got an awesome guest that I’m gonna bring on here in just a moment because full disclosure, she is my coach and I have learned a great deal from her. And I’m so excited to have her here today. So I’m without further ado, I wanna welcome Tasha Chen to live love engage.
Tasha Chen (01:33):
Gloria Grace Rand (01:35):
Tasha Chen (01:36):
We both have the memo. We got the red memo.
Gloria Grace Rand (01:39):
Yeah, absolutely. I love it. Yeah. See, great minds were in sync. It’s awesome. That’s right. Yeah. So let me tell all of you who are, if you, for some reason, have never heard about Tasha Chen, who she is, but she is a master money manifesting mentor and the co-founder of the science of getting rich academy.
Gloria Grace Rand (02:01):
And she helps you manifest your greatest desired desires using a time tested program and her own proven principles. And her clients have created well over 33 million dollars over the last five years. I’m sure it’s probably even more than that by now. And as I said at the beginning, I’m I am one of her clients. I have not manifested over over a million dollars yet, but her coaching has helped me manifest abundance in ways I never dreamed possible. And I know one of the reasons I haven’t been consistent in manifesting is that deep down, I haven’t felt that I deserved to be rich. And that is something that Tasha knows all too well. And in fact, she’s written a book about it. It is called deservingness the art of getting more of what you want. And I love that title by the way. So I wanted to start with you Tasha telling us a little bit about, about this book, you know, why did you decide to write it and, and why tell your story, cuz you do tell some, some personal stuff that happened to you in there.
Tasha Chen (03:08):
Yeah. Yep. So it’s interesting. I wanna start with exactly what you said Gloria, because there’s so many times when sharing, why I wrote the book, that this exactly what I said. Over the past why I’ve been doing this for eight, nine years now, I’ve been teaching people how to manifest money. And I take them through a process and everyone gets the same information. They get me all the worksheets, everything that comes along with being able to manifest money. It’s like an, it’s an even keel for everyone, right? Everyone walks in equal, they get the same information and access to creating whatever results that they like. And I observed over time that some people would take the information and run with it and start manifesting money and all kinds of other amazing things into their life really quickly. And then there were others who, you know, would crawl along
Tasha Chen (04:11):
And, and what it looked like from the outside was as if they were climbing up a mountain with like a 10 pound, I’m sorry, a 10 ton Boulder on their back three overweight suitcases and just Haggard and tired and all of that. Right?
Gloria Grace Rand (04:27):
Tasha Chen (04:28):
So yeah. So I’m observing and I’m like, what is, what is the difference? You know, why are some people running through the Meadows and manifesting with ease and others are not, of course I tell people I have a scientific approach to manifesting. So in my observation and trying to understand it, I, I got my answer in a very personal way. I simultaneously obviously had figured out the money situation in my own life, worked through my money wounds, heal all of my trauma and started on my way, manifesting the financial reality that I desired. However, in my personal life, I was in a relationship for three years.
Tasha Chen (05:13):
I was newly divorced and I wanted, all I wanted to do was make things right, make it successfully through a relationship, have the guy of my dreams, a relationship of my dreams. And I, I was really willing to do anything to make it work. And I’m observing during this three year relationship that every day I’m in emotional trauma, this guy was extremely toxic for me. I had a coach that asked me one time, Tasha, what is the longest period you’ve gone without having to cry because you’ve been so, you know, emotionally abused put down made to feel less than, what’s the longest period that you’ve gone while you’ve been in this relationship and in an attempt to not make it look so bad. I said two days, and that was not the truth. I really had never gone more than a day without being in some kind of total meltdown feeling, just all the emotional of being in that type of a relationship.
Tasha Chen (06:19):
And so finally it was our third year anniversary and Gloria, I had gotten to the point where I was saying things like, okay, so I’m in a relationship with a liar, you know? Okay. But I love him, you know, mm-hmm, okay. You know, he, he, he gets over dramatic and he like puts me down and he does all this, but you know, but I love him. And I, I, I mean, it, it’s looking back obviously 20, 20 vision. Right? So looking back, the thing that really got me during that time was I’m I consider myself very intelligent. I, you know, I, I have a very successful business. I’m a hard worker more than anything. I’m a good person. I’m just, like I said, I came into this relationship wanting to be the best and to have the best,
Gloria Grace Rand (07:07):
Tasha Chen (07:07):
And I’m looking at everything that’s been going on for the last three years. And I’m like, I gotta get out of this. And on our anniversary, this thing kicked in. And if, if any woman watching, you know, when your intuition just says something and you, you, you don’t even stop to make sense of it. You just go, my intuition said, run, run for your life. Like your life is in danger. So I literally did that. I went home, I packed a suitcase. And very last minute I, I grabbed my passport cause I had no idea where I was running to, but I grabbed my passport and everything, all that fight or flight stuff was going on inside and saying, this is like, your life is on the line. To make the, the story concise. I end up in Costa Rica. And I remember when I landed and finally felt some sense of safety. I walked out into the trees out in nature and I really, I just had one of those, okay, God, please explain this to me. How is this my life? How am I Tasha with my amazing self, maybe self proclaimed, but with my amazing self in a situation where I’m having to run from a man for my life and Gloria, as sure as day, I heard it crystal clear Tasha, because you don’t believe you deserve much more than this.
Tasha Chen (08:36):
And we talked about right before we got on, you know, defining moment. That was a lifetime defining moment for me. Because up until that point, if you would’ve asked me, if I thought I deserve to be in an amazing relationship, it was an obvious, Yes. Right? I I’ll ask any of you watching. Do you think you deserve the best? Do you believe, you know, you should have an incredible financial reality, a great relationship, great health. Do you think you deserve to have those things and you’re automatically gonna go, is that, is that question redundant? Of course.
Gloria Grace Rand (09:58):
Tasha Chen (10:54):
The thing, the thing that I love about what you shared in, in response to that question is that, you know, I always say on the journey of, of personal growth, many of us, we know our limitations. It’s like, why aren’t you, why haven’t you manifested what you want? Or why aren’t you where you wanna be? Well, you know, if I’m being honest with you, Tasha, I know I have some limitations. I know I have some limited thinking. I know I do self sabotaging things. Like we know our stuff, you know, the thing with deservingness is we actually don’t know that we don’t believe we deserve it. And so it’s like with the self sabotage and the limiting beliefs and the, all of those things that we have an awareness around, that’s amazing because you can work on it, but with deservingness when you don’t know it’s playing out and you see yourself settling and suffering in a pattern continuously, and no matter all the work that you’re doing, it’s not getting resolved.
Tasha Chen (11:52):
Then that’s where I have come to realize innately. You don’t believe you deserve a thing you’re asking for. And where did that come from? You know, like most things are childhood. There were childhood experiences. In the book I talk about the lies that we have believed. I share one of my stories in the, in the book where I was maybe five or six years old. I have one memory of my parents being together. I walked into a, a bedroom where they were and all I wanted was for them to invite me and hug me and hold me and be like, oh, you know, little Tasha come let’s love on you. And when they didn’t, I didn’t understand why. I stood there. Remember standing there. I have no other memory of being with both my parents except that one memory. And in that memory, when they didn’t invite me in, I created a story that said they didn’t love me.
Tasha Chen (12:48):
And that I was not, I was unwanted. Right. And so that as you grow, what that shows up as I don’t deserve to be loved all, because in that little childlike moment, I created an assumption that wasn’t true.
Gloria Grace Rand (13:04):
Tasha Chen (13:05):
Not true at all. You know? And so the biggest part, I would say 80% of why people become undeserving applies to experiences that we’ve had in our childhood. And then as we continue with the, the beliefs that we got during that period, we start making choices that reinforce the lack of deservingness and we just become more undeserving.
Gloria Grace Rand (13:29):
Yeah. Yeah. It’s it, it does sort of become then this self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s like, we keep, we keep doing that. But the good thing is, is that we can become aware and, and that’s kind of the first part of being able to then change the patterns. Can you maybe give our listeners and, and viewers watching, maybe like one tip, because obviously it’s gonna take a lot more of, you know, to able to really get over this, but is there something that they could do if they realize that yeah. They’re seeing like this re repeating pattern and they wanna change. What, what could they do?
Tasha Chen (14:04):
Well, well, I can’t give you the answer without saying, first of all, we, you, in order to move past this in order to change it, it requires serious self honesty. Like I said, when God said to me Tasha, because you don’t believe you deserve more than this, I was ready to argue and oh, no, you don’t know. You know? And, and, and once I sat back and I go, okay, well, let me look at my relationship. Let me just be honest with myself. Let me look at this relationship. Even though I’m over here, touting that I, I believe I deserve the best. Let me look at this. Is this relationship the best? No, it’s not. What is it telling me that I believe I deserve? And it was very little, so the first part is to really look at the area of your life, where you see you’re suffering, or you see that you’re settling in some way.
Tasha Chen (14:55):
You’re just get, you’re just, just in that just enough phase, right? You’re not being loved the way you should. You’re not having the financial reality that you desire. You don’t have the health that you want. And just ask yourself, is this really what I’m? If I say, I deserve the best, is this really it? Does this reflect what I’m saying I think I deserve. And if the answer is no, that is step number one. You, you have to be that level of honest with yourself. You can’t keep saying it and then your life show something different, right? So if you’re honest with yourself, then the, the, believe it or not, the next step, which is, I love this work because it is simple. It requires commitment and repetition, but the next step is literally to just make a declaration that I deserve the best.
Tasha Chen (15:48):
I am now aware that I’ve been settling for less than the best. I am now aware that I’ve accepted, you know, and live from a deservingness place that’s very little, but it doesn’t have to be that way. And so I’m, I’m gonna change all that. I’m gonna declare I deserve the best. And then you, you’re probably gonna have to either make some changes in your life or start saying, you know, here are some things that are coming my way. This is not the best. And it’s a no, it’s a no for me, because I deserve the best. Right.
Gloria Grace Rand (16:19):
Gloria Grace Rand (16:20):
Yeah. Now, is that something then that you could help other, you know, help women with you know, or, or men in general? Is that something that you do in your business then is help people through that?
Tasha Chen (16:30):
Absolutely. So, so taking it back to my work, and it’s been focused on showing people how to man, how to manifest or create in their reality, the financial abundance that they desire, right? So I’m, I’m kind of coined the money manifesting queen. And I love that as I have become aware of this idea of deservingness and seeing how people don’t recognize that it’s at play in their life. One of the things that I’ve started to do is you actually can’t even begin my program until you do this coursework around deservingness that I created, because if you don’t believe you deserve it, then you’re trying to attract this thing, which most people in my world it’s money, you know, trying to attract this thing. You don’t believe you deserve it. So you literally automatically put up a wall and, and whatever it is that you’re wanting is either gonna have a hard time getting to you, or it’s gonna, you know, barely make it in. And you’re gonna go wait a minute. No, I don’t deserve that and block it, you know? So I I’ve just become committed. You, this is now a part of working with me. You have to start off with a really strong foundation on you deserve the best you deserve to have the thing that your heart desires.
Gloria Grace Rand (17:53):
Hmm. Awesome. Yeah. That’s that makes so much sense. Because yeah, cuz like I said, I, I know with me even, you know, I worked with you for, for quite a while and, and like I said, I was able to do, you know, some things that surprised even me
Tasha Chen (18:35):
And it’s interesting cuz if you hopefully you’re okay with me sharing, but you know, before we got on the call, you said, you know, I had a breakthrough this morning reading the book again where I realized something in my childhood said, you don’t deserve to have what you want. Right. Right. You had an experience that said you don’t deserve to have what you want. So then, okay. You, you see, this is the, the self-fulfilling prophecy where yes. You’ve been able to manifest money and little bits here and there, but the abundance that you desire. I mean, it’s it, there is a thing inside that’s saying I can’t have that. I can’t have what I want. I don’t really deserve it. You know?
Gloria Grace Rand (19:15):
Exactly. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So now I’ll work on that.
Tasha Chen (19:18):
There you go. And then what’s amazing is that in the book, one of the things that I’m really passionate about, no matter what I’m talking on, whether it’s money or deservingness is I, I, I, I don’t, well, what I like to do is bring to your awareness, how things within you could be sabotaging or blocking you getting what you want and then showing you what it could look like for you to have it. And a lot of people do that. But what I really strive to do in my work is show you how to go from here to here and in the book, which is only five chapters. You could read this book in two hours, max, right? But in the book I put a lot of how, this is how you go from here to here. This is what I did. This is how I became, I became deserving so that it oozed from me.
Tasha Chen (20:08):
And the, the story starts right with having to run away from this guy. That was simply a reflection of what I believed I deserved at that time to now being in an amazing relationship, happily engaged to this guy. I went walking this morning and you know, for like 30 minutes, all I, all I was saying while, while I was walking was, oh my God, I am back to it’s a different, how is this my life now? Right? The, how is this my life now is like, for real pinch me. But the thing is, now that I believe I deserve a 10 outta 10 guy relationship, all the things I get it. Right. I, I manifest it. I attract it because I stand for deserving that. And so that’s why I’m encouraging everyone that’s listening, get the book and read through the how, because it’s not enough to just realize, oh yeah. You know, Tasha, that makes sense. I don’t, I see where I don’t really believe I deserve the stuff I want. Right. But I can imagine what it would be like if I had it. Well, how do you get from there to here? You know, in the book, I show you the steps and here’s how you do it.
Gloria Grace Rand (21:19):
Yeah, absolutely. And, and I, and I didn’t do that. So I’m gonna go back through and like, you know, answer those questions that you got in there, which, which is so wonderful. So well, let me, before we go on to talk about some more stuff, just briefly, how do people get the book? Where can they find it? Is it on,
Tasha Chen (21:34):
So it’s, it’s, it’s available on Amazon, you know, if you just search for the title deservingness or my name Tasha Chen, it will come up and you can get it on Kindle. You can get the hard cover. I love hard cover. Cuz you can write all over it, do activities that are in there. Jot your little notes. But either way Amazon would be the easiest way to get it.
Gloria Grace Rand (21:54):
Perfect. Perfect. Well, I know you did, you’ve mentioned that, you know, you do help people with manifesting and I know you’ve got an event coming up. In fact I’ve already signed up for it because I love your, I love going to any of your events. So I was like, oh yes, sign me up. So can you tell, tell us a little bit about what’s coming up for you.
Tasha Chen (22:13):
So every year, one of the things that I know and I serve mostly women and for us women, you know, my people are very much a reflection of me. I had a lot of resistance to that financial planning thing that comes really naturally to guys. And they wanna sit down with a calculator, an Excel spreadsheet and let’s, you know, budget. And that just brought up all kinds of resistance for me yet we wanna call in more money. So we absolutely need to give our attention to our finances. I have created a fun way to do it. It’s it’s called a money manifesting party. It’s free. You can just get yourself registered. The link is at the bottom, scrolling across the bottom of the screen. And during this party, really we are going to create the financial reality that we would like to experience this year and it’s going to be fun.
Tasha Chen (23:08):
And we actually have one of the things that I believe strongly is if you can see it and believe it, you must achieve it, right. That’s by Napoleon hill. So when you do your finances, what, what I love is I, we use a board, it looks like this and it has different sections. And I guide you through a process of actually downloading. What are the things that you would like to have manifest in your financial reality in all of these four different categories? One of my favorites is money for a plan. You know, most people go, okay, so how much money do you wanna make this year? And you come up with a number, but if you give money a plan, it will actually much easier come to you in ways that are unimaginable and a lot easier than you working hard for it. For example, my daughter wanted to go to law school.
Tasha Chen (24:00):
I knew it was gonna cost two, $300,000. And I thought while I could work really hard, grow my business, figure out all the different ways I could make that money or I could just put it on my board. I put it on my board and that year she got five full scholarship offers to different law schools. So that’s kinda some of the cool things that can happen. You know, there was an extra $250,000 I didn’t have to, to come up with because I gave money a plan for my life for that year. And I’m, I love this process. I love bringing fun to money and I’m excited to, you know, have our party it’s February 5th, by the way. So February 5th it’s free. The link was scrolling at the bottom of the page. Come join us.
Gloria Grace Rand (24:44):
Absolutely. And for those of you who are actually listening to this on the rebroadcast, cuz I will be putting the audio up on apple. It I’ll have it in the show notes, but I’ll just tell you right now it’s Tasha chen.com/party. So that’s a great link, but yeah, absolutely. Yeah. It’s you’re I love the idea of really giving money, a purpose. I think that think that it really is key and, and being able to say, this is what I wanna use it for. And, and I will tell you, I do have well, let’s see. Yep. I think I, I think I might have taken it down. The one I did last year, but I did have like I paid off credit card bill and I said that, you know, or that it would have this much balance and I did actually finally get it paid off this year.
Gloria Grace Rand (25:25):
So, you know, so yeah. And, and, and I know the power of, you know, I know you call ’em manifested boards. A lot of people call them like vision boards, but they really do work. I mean, I remember years and years ago before I was even aware of who you were is that I, we, we did like a vision board and I had, and it was like, but it was just very simple. It was just like three things that you wanna have happen. Okay. And I, I actually just put it away. I didn’t even know where it was. And then like a year later I was cleaning out my office or something and I came across it and I went, oh, wow. Did that, did that, did that. And I was like, this stuff really works. This is pretty cool. So, but now I know even more about it and, and, and it’s so powerful, but also with the I, the added benefit now of getting into that deservingness part, cuz as you said, I think that really is, is the key to it. Is there anything else that I should have asked you about that I haven’t, that you’d like to share with our listeners and viewers.
Tasha Chen (26:29):
That’s a dangerous question.
Gloria Grace Rand (26:33):
Tasha Chen (26:36):
You know, really, I think, I don’t know that there’s anything you should have asked that didn’t I know what’s on my heart. Always whenever I have a conversation around deservingness is I just, you, I say often what I have for myself or what I want for myself, I want for everyone else. And when I was living from a place of undeservingness or lack of being deserving without even knowing it, which was, which is really sad. I didn’t even know that I was there. I suffered so much, I suffered so much. I was so sad and crying and it was just everything I could do to try to get through life, you know, and having realized that the reason I was going through that was because I was walking around feeling I didn’t deserve much more than what I was experiencing and it just kept getting more of it.
Tasha Chen (27:29):
You know, all I wanna do is challenge every person who’s listening. And especially if you’re in a situation where you are suffering, please consider asking yourself, is this what I deserve? And I don’t know what your ego will tell you, but I wanna be the reflection of God, of source of your creator and tell you and remind you, you deserve the best you deserve the best. So if you look at an area of your life and you don’t feel like that’s the best, I encourage you to really do that self reflection and, and stand for, I shouldn’t be settling for this when I was born with the birthright of deserving the absolute best.
Gloria Grace Rand (28:14):
Hmm. Yeah, absolutely. Oh, thank you so much for being here today and sharing your wisdom with us. And, and again, I’ll show the book again. So it is it’s called deservingness, the art of getting more of what you want by Tasha Chen. So you can find it on Amazon and make sure you go to Tasha chen.com/party and sign up for the morning manifesting party. Cause it’s gonna be absolutely. Yeah. right. Well thank you. Yeah. Thank you for being here. Thank you for taking some time out to be with us today. I really appreciate it. And it’s been a pleasure as always to see you.
Tasha Chen (28:54):
Well thank you for having me. I absolutely love that we’re both in red. That was the universe doing its thing.
Gloria Grace Rand (29:00):
Tasha Chen (29:01):
You know, I, I appreciate your willingness to share this message with others, and I’m excited to hear what happens for you personally, as you go on the, the deservingness journey.
Gloria Grace Rand (29:12):
Absolutely. Can’t wait. I’m looking forward to it. So I, I do wanna thank all of you out there for being here today for, and for those of you who are watching and commenting. I appreciate that as well. And if you’re listening on your favorite podcast platform, we would love a review. That’s always nice. So this is our new time. If you wanna join, live as opposed to waiting for the replay you can join us next Wednesday at 11:00 AM on my Gloria Grace Rand, Facebook page or personal or my YouTube channel and our guest is gonna be embodiment expert, Leah McQuaid, who will share with us how to tap into the wisdom of the body, define more freedom, pleasure, joy, and peace. And so until next time as always, I encourage you to go out today and always and live fully love, deeply and engage authentically. Did you know that a majority of entrepreneurs tend to discount the importance of their work and a good number feel their success is simply due to luck. I know from personal experience that self-doubt can keep you from having the kind of life and business you desire. That’s why I’ve created a free guide called uniquely you how to move from self-doubt to self love in four simple steps to claim your free guide, go to live love, engage.gift that’s live love, engage dot g.i.f.t.