High-achieving women work hard to achieve success, and yet along the way, they still feel unseen. As leadership coach Becky Estby explained in our interview, it’s time to stop proving yourself and start living authentically. Becky spent decades as a senior HR executive watching brilliant women push past exhaustion until their bodies forced them to stop.
Together, we explore why so many of us default to “it must be me” when something isn’t working and how stress shows up in our bodies long before our minds will admit it. You’ll learn why belonging after 50 often means building your own room instead of waiting to be invited into someone else’s. And Becky shares the simple mirror test she uses to know whether she’s living in her integrity. You’ll walk away with more clarity, more courage, and one small step you can take this week toward living life on your terms.
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In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why working harder to prove yourself so often ends in exhaustion instead of fulfillment.
- How the “it must be me” reflex keeps capable women second-guessing themselves, and what shifts when you see the system clearly instead.
- How to stop trying to fit into rooms that weren’t built for you and start creating your own circle of three to five trusted people, even if you’re an introvert making friends after 50.
- Becky’s mirror test for staying in your integrity, plus the one courageous step she invites you to take when you feel that quiet tug toward change.
About My Guest
Becky Estby is the CEO of Next Monday, where she helps professional women in leadership grow through peer groups, coaching, events, and consulting. Before Next Monday, she spent decades as a senior HR and organizational development leader, often as the only woman (or one of two) at the executive table. Raised the youngest of six on a dairy farm, Becky learned early that work ethic and teamwork matter, and so does having your own voice. She is the author of Uncommon Courage, a guide to speaking up, staying in your integrity, and finding peace on your own terms.
Connect with Becky
- Website: next-monday.com
- LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/becky-estby
- Free chapter of Becky’s book: next-monday.com/uncommoncourage
Resources & links mentioned:
- Uncommon Courage by Becky Estby – available now on Amazon
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- Looking for a room where you can bring your whole self? Join the Soulful Women’s Network, my community for women over 50 focused on purpose, connection, and joy: https://www.facebook.com/groups/soulfulwomensnetwork
Design Your Life, Your Way – next steps:
- Ready for one-on-one support redesigning your next chapter? Learn more about Elevate & Empower at gloriarand.com/coaching
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