Do you yearn to discover your true purpose and embrace your individuality with intention? Look no further as Wendy Posillico reveals the keys to unlocking your unique path and living a fulfilling life.
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Show Notes | Transcript“Ask the question: What am I supposed to be? Where am I going now?” – Wendy Posillico
Introducing Wendy Posillico, an inspiring figure with a diverse background as an athlete, coach, mother, and founder of Live Your June. Wendy’s journey took an unexpected turn when she became a professional golfer in her 30s, leading her to understand the power of a flexible mindset and trusting her intuition. She now helps others tap into their unique strengths and passions, guiding them on a path towards a more authentic life. Through her coaching program, Wendy emphasizes self-awareness and intention-setting as key tools for personal growth.
In this episode, you will be able to:
- Discover methods to embrace your uniqueness and ignite your passions.
- Recognize the impact of intentional living on your daily experiences.
- Uncover insights into aligning with your core beliefs and personal philosophy.
- Explore the power of mindset, self-talk, and stillness for individual growth.
- Enrich your life by seeking meaningful connections and embracing genuine emotions.
Related Live. Love. Engage. episodes you may enjoy:
Unlocking Your True Potential: Discover Your Passion & Purpose After 40
How to Prosper with Purpose with Dr. Lynn Anderson
How to Live Your Soul’s Purpose with Alena Chapman
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TRANSCRIPT
Gloria Grace Rand
Namaste. I am so glad to be with you today. And of course, it’s one of my favorite types of episodes, is the ones where I get to interview interesting and insightful people. And today’s guest is going to be no different. She, her name is Wendy Posillico and she is an athlete, a coach, a mother, an explorer, and the founder of Live Your June. And after becoming a professional golfer in her thirties and a single mother through IVF in her 40s, her life went in a completely new direction and she came to understand the importance of a flexible mindset. And now she’s created a coaching program that she helps people with and she really learned to embrace transition and to trust her intuition in order to transform her life. And she wants to help you do the same. And I love this topic because I love talking about intuition. It’s so important. So I can’t wait to dive right in. But first off, I want to officially welcome you, Wendy, to live, love, engage.
Wendy Posillico
Thank you, Gloria. I’m so happy to be here. I’m excited to talk to your listeners and yourself and get to share whatever I can help in the journey of whoever’s listening. So I’m excited.
Gloria Grace Rand
Sounds good. Sounds good. Well, I love to start off these interviews with getting a little bit of background on our guests and a little bit about your journey that got you where you are today. What was it that really prompted this new direction that I mentioned in the bio? So I wonder if you would share a little bit about that so we could get to know you a little bit more.
Wendy Posillico
Yeah, listen, I’ve always been an athlete my entire life, and I come from a big Italian family from New York. I’m one of six in the middle, and sports was my thing. And I played in college, division one lacrosse. And once college was done, I struggled in school and I had my education degree, but I kind of got flat. So in my twenties, I couldn’t… I traveled, I got my Masters, I did all the right things. It looked good on paper. But at 28, I remember having, I was teaching in Harlem, I had my Masters, and just in my head was like, okay, is this it? Like, I just find a guy and get married and have kids. And so I think there was this flat moment in my late twenties that something was like, confused. I was in a very flat state. Like, this is my life. And really what happened was I was on a Spring break and I went to visit my parents down in Florida, where you are as well, and I live here now. And my dad would ask me to play golf, and I dabbled in golf, but I was like, all right, I’ll go play. And that day I hit some golf balls in front of my dad’s friends. They were like Joe, she’s really good. And then I was playing on the course and someone else said something and my dad was like, why don’t you give this a try? And the journey of in my thirties to play golf was a bizarre how I got there. But there was just like this inner pulling that had never really happened in my life or I never listened to it and it was just like pulling me in a direction and I had no clue. So that is really the transitions that the introduction talks about is like walking in that place that makes no sense to go there but something was pulling at me to do it.
Gloria Grace Rand
Right. I was going to say you don’t typically hear of people deciding to become a professional athlete in their 30s. That’s usually what well, golfing of course people kind of keep going for a while but still it’s still not exactly something that you take up then.
Wendy Posillico
No, to even know… I said yes and I didn’t even know. It’s not like I had a coach. I didn’t have a plan. But it is funny when you… I think that’s a gift of mine now is to not only myself to walk that harder walk, but also to help people have the courage to take their walk or that step in a direction that seems so out of the ordinary and it can go in any direction. It’s not like yes, I went to be a professional golf, but I’m just like people don’t love their job and what is that thing? And people don’t make that step because they don’t know what that answer is. So most times you got to explore and that’s really how I ventured in that direction as I started to say yes and explore and found the answers and the people I met on the journey if I didn’t take the step I wouldn’t have got the next step, you know?
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, absolutely. What do you suppose made you say yes? Because I think a lot of times people are afraid to do that and they might have that little inkling but they’re like I don’t know, I’m probably not good enough or whatever. What do you think it was for you?
Wendy Posillico
We all have the chatter, we all have that voice it’s like I’m not good enough. We all have that voice saying it’s too late, we have that voice, we’re too old. And I even had it at 28. Like how do I have the right to take up this sport at my age? Not really playing it very much, but there is this other voice or this other instinct saying I left a lot on the table in my younger years as an athlete, even playing Division One lacrosse. And I just wanted to see what I was capable of. And I think I just listened like I never had before, not knowing that there was this yearning, like I knew I had something else in me. And I think we all have that voice. It’s not just, the loud voice is that limited thinking, that scared voice, the fear. But then there’s this other thing that if you just sit in silence or really shut off the noise, there’s something else speaking. And I really encourage or I really help people find that space to hear that voice. And that’s where I feel like if you are someone who’s listening resonate with what I’m saying at any age, in any chapter of your life, just listen in and shut off the TV, shut off the phone and just have some space to see what just comes up out of you. Ask the question like, what am I supposed to be? Where am I going now? And just ask a question. And sometimes that instinct starts to speak. I don’t know if it’s like a boy. It depends. Everybody’s different. It could be like and I think when we really explore a lot of my clients are in their 50s currently right now, that I have this group I’ve worked with for four years, and they’re empty nesters and they’re in this stage and they really do work. They have a great job, but there’s something that they don’t have the fire in their tummy. They’re starting to want more. I can feel it. And it’s so cool to watch because I feel like the jam when you actually can start to listen, it’s like something nice in your gut that gives you a little more excitement for when you wake up in the day. You’re more excited for doing the thing you’re going after. And I can see it in them shifting. And I think that’s why… kids all do that all the time. So why are we stopping? It doesn’t matter what age we are, we still should have that excitement.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, I agree with you 100 percent. It’s one of the reasons I started doing this podcast again, because I did do it back in 2015 for about maybe eight months or so, and then it was too much and I gave it up. But then when I was working on my book, I was like, I think I want to do the podcast again, but I’m going to do it differently this time. And it’s been so much fun to do. And I think that’s so great that you’re helping people to realize that they can try something new if they’re feeling called to do it. How do intentions fit into that? Because I know that that’s something that I do a lot of times, is setting intentions.
Wendy Posillico
Yeah, intentions. Well, I actually have we were just talking with my team about I have to refresh this Be Intentional challenge I made two years ago because I think it starts there. It starts with awareness and intention and with your listeners or anybody, even me. And this is work, by the way. Everything I talk about or teach or share, I do everything. Like I’m not different. And so the intention that I really work on with my clients or whoever I work with, it’s like I start the day with intention. What’s one word I want to be like today? Who do I want to bring my A game to? Who do I want to connect to? So I have very specific questions I ask in the morning before I start my day to help me be more intentional about how I want to show up. So I think a lot of even I’m talking to my nine year old daughter this week. It’s just the basics, like brush your teeth, make your bed, walk the dog. But it is a habit of how we choose to be intentional. And it could be just intentional of how we show up at this podcast. It’s like, how do I want to show up at this podcast? I’m not just pressing the button to go on Zoom. It’s like I want to be intentional and be most present with Gloria to bring the best to her audience. And when my brain hears this, my brain shows up in a way that is really I want to say the word intention, but like, I have purpose to the moment that I’m walking into. And I do think we’re not trained that way from any age. We were not trained to be that way. But in sports, you have to be intentional. So when you go back to sports, that’s a tangible thing. It’s like you’re intentional about how you do in golf, a pre shot routine to the shot, to the post shot routine. But why is it different for our everyday life?
Gloria Grace Rand
You mentioned something about in talking about the intentions, about bringing your A game. Why is it important for people to do that? What’s the benefit of it?
Wendy Posillico
I mean, I say it in lots of different ways, like my A game for myself, because I think we are all meant to be our best. I think we were not born to kind of be mediocre, live in this very comfortable state. So to me, it’s more about being real with myself. Did I really show up as my best self, my A game? And if I didn’t, that’s okay. And it comes back to awareness and then intention. In sports, if I don’t show up for that one shot or that one tournament or that practice before the tournament as my A game, I will never perform the way I’m capable of performing. And again, on an everyday life, we kind of let those things slide because it’s a harder concept, because we’re just so busy and running, running, running. But if we take time to be more intentional, take time to go, how am I going to show up as my A game for your podcast? For my client? It’s just our brains start to see things different or yearn to be something different. And I really ask the question of who needs me to be on my A game today. Not just only about how I show up, but from a connecting place who needs me to show up as my A game. So they feel heard, so they feel loved, engaged. I’m looking at your book on the back. I’m like using the words from your book.
Gloria Grace Rand
(laugh)
Wendy Posillico
All that energy.
Gloria Grace Rand
That’s right. Well, this kind of ties into, I suspect, a little bit about what first intrigued me. When I first learned about you and I asked you about this, it was like, okay, why does your company name say Live Your June? What the heck does that mean? So I wonder if you could explain that to our audience.
Wendy Posillico
And that is exactly what I get. What the heck does that mean? Okay, so Live Your June is all about living into your own uniqueness. We all have a gift. And how I came up with this name is because my dad’s name was Joseph Jr. And we used to call him the June. He passed 20 years ago and he left his mark on me and so many and he also was a pain in the butt at times. But that pain in the butt left a mark on me. Like he challenged me. So I always take his essence. I feel like he’s still around me and I take his essence and I take other people who have influenced me, whether it’s a coach or whoever. And I really am intentional about those people that have made their mark on me and make sure I use it into living my own unique self. So I leave my mark for future generations. And my daughter’s name is Josie June, after my grandpa, my dad. So it’s all about living your June. And we all have our own June, so it’s our responsibility to really embrace our uniqueness. I didn’t have… This is my journey to learn that because when I was early on, before my thirties, I was just doing what I was supposed to. I was going to college, I was going through the routine. And I really want to shift to my mission is really to wake people up earlier to connecting to their June.
Gloria Grace Rand
Well, we definitely share a common mission, I guess, where it comes to uniqueness. Because in my book I talk about something called the LOVE Method. And love is an acronym. And the V is Value Your Uniqueness. So there you go. I’m right with you on that.
Wendy Posillico
We’re all sharing the same thing in a different way, right?
Gloria Grace Rand
Absolutely. Yeah. And because different people resonate with different people. And so that’s why we, and I would encourage you, anyone who’s listening, because I know sometimes you say, oh, well, this person’s teaching this and oh, who’s going to listen to me? There are people who are going to listen to you because you have your unique background, your unique experiences, and that someone is waiting to hear that. So don’t let someone else teaching scare you off the path Because I know the things that I talk about in my book are things that Wayne Dyer talks about. But it’s wrapped up in my package. So I know what I talk about in my book on how people can value your uniqueness. How do you help your clients live their June?
Wendy Posillico
Yeah, we’re big into the first part we do is help people connect to their ethos. So we really get clear on what makes you tick going back into their story. I think learning from your own journey, not so much. I don’t have anybody’s answer. I am just helping you unwind what you already know inside of you. So we go back into we ask really hard questions of like what made you stand for something? When were you at your best, when did you feel most alive? And if you think of any kid, if you really look at children, we all had that in us. It’s like somewhere we’ve lost our June, somewhere we lost that uniqueness, that connection of that knowing that only you know. And so it’s really going back to your story to be like, oh, I did stand up there, I didn’t like that, or I really was alive when I did this. I love this type of environment. So they start to just explore from their past, good and bad. What do they start becoming aware of? Then really getting clear on their values and what values still resonate with them and what values that they had taken on from someone else. And then also like getting clear on a personal philosophy, like their guiding principles, that compass and I really get them to articulate it. We can all articulate what we do, but we have very hard time articulating who we are and that is what we do. So basically it starts with the ethos and the personal philosophy. It’s a growing thing, it’s evolution. So when I started doing my personal philosophy, it’s probably like six years ago, I’ve done this work for a very long time, but really owning my personal philosophy, it’s taken some time and I still don’t know if it is. Have I nailed it yet? No. But I know that when I say it, I get excited. So my personal philosophy is disrupt your norm and instigate your soul as in me, so I can be my best self to help others do the same. So when I say that I love being on podcasts because I feel these stories or what we’re saying from your book, I keep looking at your book in the back, it’s just we don’t know who we’re connecting with and what that can stir up in someone. And then I think when we really get clear on that, the right things come to us. So it’s ethos and then we really get clear on the declaration. So less of like, the new year’s coming right now, 2023. Yeah, we can do a New Year’s resolution, but I’m more big to stretch the thinking beyond. We’re not taught to think like that and to think almost a little scary ten years out and then go backwards. And sometimes we don’t know what that is. Even if we say, like, I want to be the best parent or the best, what does that look like? Because then you can be really authentic of intention, A game, back to that. So ethos is everything.
Gloria Grace Rand
Now, correct me if I’m wrong here, but it also seems to me a little bit about, like, when you’re talking about your philosophy, it’s a little bit about why you’re doing what it is that you’re doing. Does that apply?
Wendy Posillico
Yes. You have to have an intrinsic, right? It’s a connection of the why, but also who you are. So I think it’s a combination of I think if you do the why and don’t remember who you are, it’s harder to make decisions. When you get your philosophy and you have that why, it’s like, does this okay, let’s just think tomorrow someone says, hey, let’s go to a party, and I’ve got a big project to do the next day. Well, those decisions are much easier when I start to say, oh, this is what I’m doing. You start to make decisions socially, personally, work wise, because you’re so aligned with who you want to be and who you are already. But you’re very intentional about the kind of person you want to be.
Gloria Grace Rand
Absolutely. What was a defining moment in your life that maybe changed your way of being?
Wendy Posillico
I mean, I’ve done a lot of writing on my own story. There’s so many. But I would say when I had… My brother had a baby, and his daughter was five weeks old, and she was diagnosed with cancer. I was 40. I wanted to have six kids. I was still single, and his baby, at five weeks old, was diagnosed with cancer, and I was the only single person at the age everybody else had babies, and were married, and I was still playing golf or teaching at the time, and I was there supporting him and his wife during this horrible moment. I remember holding the baby, baby Whitney, and she was five weeks old. They just took her kidney out, and she got the rarest disease, cancer diagnosed. And I remember looking and going, what? This baby is fighting for her life. And I’m like, what am I waiting for? Why am I waiting? What am I doing? And it was like that moment here’s this baby sick. And of course I was sad, but I was like, I don’t have time to wait. And if anybody’s listening, that’s just a defining moment. But that changed my life, because I was like, I have no time to wait anymore. And I was told by the top doctor in Cornell that maybe I should use an egg donor during the IVF process. I didn’t have a husband and I didn’t listen to him. And I went again with my instinct and I had my daughter Christmas Day, ten years ago this year.
Gloria Grace Rand
Oh, wow.
Wendy Posillico
And if anybody’s listening, I guess and more passionate than even Live Your June is like, do not wait. If something is pulling at you, you got to take a step because life changes, like on a dime and there’s no redo. We only have one chance at it.
Gloria Grace Rand
Absolutely. Well, that’s awesome and congratulations on this big milestone. And oh, boy, the fun is coming now. Teenagers.
Wendy Posillico
I know.
Gloria Grace Rand
So I’m hoping blessing you, that they will be fun and not too traumatic. Sometimes they can be but it’s all good.
Wendy Posillico
Part of the journey.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, absolutely. What are you curious about right now?
Wendy Posillico
Good question. Yeah, I say I’m on my back nine, I’m 51. I’ve had a lot of my own transition in the last year and a half. My mom’s 81, my daughter’s, I’m on my own as a single mom, but I had a big transition in a relationship. And I guess my curiosity is like I just feel that we all have so much more, everyone has so much more, including myself, in them. And I’m just curious of how we can connect and help one another unlock it. Does that make sense? Because we get so distracted with all the noise and it actually makes me a little bit sad. Not that we can’t do it, it’s just because I know we leave so much talent and love and we’re all yearning for that connection, love. And I think if we could my curiosity is like, how do we keep embracing that to bring that simplicity of life to the forefront of intention and we don’t have to make it so difficult, if that makes sense. People just want to be heard. And how do I help that more from a depth of a simplicity, but depth.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, because we never know when our time is up here, so we tend to waste so much time on just trivial things instead of taking the time to do what brings us our joy, to Live our June and to really help to be a light in the world.
Wendy Posillico
Yeah. And I think just saying that conversation, I’ll just say one more thing, is if we can just help young people embrace. I don’t know if it’s curiosity, but there’s a feeling of yearning to help these young people because they’ve been handed a harder road with all the stuff in the last, whatever, five years or more. And how do we do that and create a new way of going, of living every day without yeah, so I think it’s generational. It goes back to the live your June passing year. Like, I’m very intentional with my daughter to be the leader, not for me, but like, in her school and she’s embracing it, but we’ve also lived a different life. When I’m single, I’ve been able to expose her to a different way of living because we’ve traveled and stuff like that. But yeah, it’s an interesting… We live in a crazy world, but I think there is definitely ways we can improve our connection and love out there.
Gloria Grace Rand
For sure. For sure. Is there anything else that I should have asked you about but I didn’t?
Wendy Posillico
I think we talked a lot about ethos but in the work that I share with my clients there’s a mindset. So we can connect to our ethos but the mindset is a lot of self-talk. So how are you talking to yourself? Are you being kind? Are you encouraging yourself? Are you only listening to the thoughts that probably you wouldn’t say to your best friend or anybody? But the other thing is you have to stretch yourself. Like, how do you? Are you embracing the struggle? Are you challenging yourself? And when I say my philosophy of disrupt your norm, when I get in a state where I’m almost so comfortable, now I think it’s become a habit. But to me, I don’t want to be so comfortable. I want to have time to rest and I want to have time to reboot myself. But then when am I going to stretch myself to grow? And the magic comes in the mindset of pushing and stretching oneself and it’s just you have to ask yourself, am I comfortable? I mean, if you are comfortable, what can you do to push your edge? And it doesn’t have to be big, could be walking a mile. I mean it could be whatever. Everybody’s story is different. But I think mindset is key. And then the last thing I’m really big into stillness. So stillness is, I call it being, but it’s really being quiet and just listening what comes up. And so I would say mindset. All of this stuff, we’re not taught that early on. So I think we’re getting there. There’s awareness, we’re getting there. The right people are sharing and from an authentic place. But mindset is key and it’s work. This is not easy work.
Gloria Grace Rand
That’s true. And I do love that you mentioned also the importance of being still. I love the phrase, be still and know, because you can’t even begin to listen to your intuition when your mind is going mile a minute and you’re distracted by everything. But if you can just take just even a few minutes out of your day to just be quiet, it’s amazing what can come up. So yeah, I appreciate that, sharing that with us today. Oh, I know what I wanted to ask you. Very important question. So if someone listening to us talking today would like to be able to find out more about you and if I could keep my Siamese cat from meowing would be nice. He’s pestering me, trying to ignore him. Yeah. How can people contact you and learn more about the work that you’re doing?
Wendy Posillico
I’m on Instagram. Liveyourjune is my handle. You could email me at Wendy at liveyourjune. Those are really the easiest way to do to reach out to me. I’m totally open to connecting with anybody that something resonated or you’re curious about something. But I also am starting a podcast myself coming up. I’m not sure of the title yet, but it’s something to do with June for sure about the journey. Yeah. And then we, we do courses every so often, but just reach out and if you’re curious, we can let you know what’s going on. We have an Ethos course that’s coming up and we have a, Be Intentional, but yeah, that’s Wendy at Liveyourjune and Instagram. Those are the two.
Gloria Grace Rand
All right, excellent. I will have all of that information in the show notes for those of you listening and also for those of you watching on YouTube as well. See if I can put that in the description. And this has been a lovely conversation, which I knew. I had a feeling that was my intuition that we were going to have a good discussion. So I appreciate you so much for taking some time out of your day and being with me.
Wendy Posillico
Thanks for connecting Gloria. I’m going to go get her book because the words just keep reaching out to me ever time I’m looking at her. Live, love, Engage. So true, right?
Gloria Grace Rand
Very good. Absolutely. All right, cool.
Wendy Posillico
Look forward.
Gloria Grace Rand
Thank you.
Wendy Posillico
Thanks so much for having me.
Gloria Grace Rand
All right. And I also want to thank all of you for listening and for watching, and I do appreciate you all so much as well and make sure if you did receive value out of this today, let me know. You can reach out to me. I’m on Instagram too at Gloria Grace Rand. I had a live love engage one, but I think it got hacked. I’m not going there anymore or comment on YouTube. Same thing at Gloria Grace Rand. And until next time, as always, I encourage you to go out and live fully, love deeply, and engage authentically.
