Did you know that practicing self-care can help you achieve sustainable success as an entrepreneur? Taking care of yourself does more than rejuvenate your energy. As our guest Yvonne Nobles explains, prioritizing self-care helps you gain a fresh perspective on your business, allowing you to reach your goals with greater ease.
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Show Notes | Transcript“Always be your strongest advocate and make sure that you’re taking care and taking time so you can be there for the ones that you love.” – Yvonne Nobles
Yvonne Nobles is a dynamic speaker and success strategist who specializes in guiding entrepreneurs on the road to limitless success. With a background in leading million-dollar sales teams to victory, Yvonne knows what it takes to achieve sustainable success. Her journey began at a young age, traveling with her military family and being inspired by the resilience and positivity of Holocaust survivors. This early experience taught her the importance of finding the gold in any situation and embracing a positive mindset. Yvonne’s unique approach focuses on the power of connection and building relationships, rather than simply selling a product or service. She believes that self-care is essential for entrepreneurs and aims to inspire others to prioritize their well-being for greater professional success. With her wisdom and expertise, Yvonne is committed to helping entrepreneurs rewrite their narrative and be celebrated for their unique gifts.
In this episode, you will be able to:
- Discover the transformative power of self-care for sustainable success.
- Learn how to prioritize self-care without feeling guilty or selfish.
- Gain insight into the importance of work-life integration for entrepreneurs.
- Uncover the benefits of embracing self-care to achieve renewed energy and productivity.
- Explore practical strategies for prioritizing self-care and achieving a balanced lifestyle.
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TRANSCRIPT
Gloria Grace Rand
Namaste. I am Gloria Grace, the light messenger and creator of the L.O.V.E. Method. And I am so delighted to be with you today to be able to bring you another fantastic interview. And I’ve got a guest with us today who is a dynamic speaker and success strategist supporting global powerhouses shift into limitless legacy lifestyle. And having led a million dollars plus sales teams to award winning victory time and again, Yvonne Nobles specializes in guiding those who walk the road less traveled by to rewrite their narrative and be fully seen and celebrated. And we’re going to be talking all about her journey, as well as talking about the importance of self-care. So before I do that, without further ado, let me bring on Yvonne to officially welcome you now to Live Love. Engage.
Yvonne Nobles
Hello. Hello. It’s so great to see you. Gloria.
Gloria Grace Rand
It’s so good to see you. Yeah, we first connected a few months ago, and I’m so glad to finally have the chance to get you on the show. And I love your sunglasses. For those of you listening, you cannot see these amazing sunglasses, which she is wearing because she’s also sitting in a car.
Yvonne Nobles
I’m in South Florida.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yes, well, you’re lucky to have sunshine because here in central Florida, we have a bit of a rain, but most of the rain has passed us by, and so I think we’re going to be good for our interview this afternoon.
Yvonne Nobles
Awesome.
Gloria Grace Rand
So I love to start off these podcasts asking our guests a little bit about their journey and specifically what got you into being this speaker and success strategist and all the wonderful things that you are involved in. So wonder if you can share with us a little bit about that.
Yvonne Nobles
Oh, beautiful question. I always say, when it comes to the coaching and speaking arena, those are things that choose you. And so when I look back on some of the experiences I had as a child, I was actually two years old when my dad enlisted in the military. And from there, we ended up traveling. His first huge assignment was overseas in Germany. So at the age of six, I met the man that would eventually become my husband. He was nine. So, puppy love at first, but it turned into something amazing 25 years later when our moms brought us back together. And in the midst of being apart and living life and growing up, having a lot of experiences that some would be embittered by or be full of hate or spite, you know, it was that experience in Germany meeting a bunch of Holocaust survivors, that led to me embracing, no matter what happens in life, you can find the gold, you can find positivity. And I was just so inspired by people who lived through that, and they still loved, still laughed. And I was just driven to find a way to help more people stay positive.
Gloria Grace Rand
Well, that is amazing. And I’m still just flabbergasted by meeting as a child. We’re going to get back to this stuff, but I would love to know because I’m just curious, and I think it would be interesting, too. So how did you then reconnect what you said, like 25 years later or something? How did that happen?
Yvonne Nobles
Yeah, our families did kind of touch base every now and then, so I have recalls, but I don’t see it vividly. I see the color, I hear the sounds, but I remember seeing each other through our teens, our early 20s. But it was that 25 year mark. My mom went to visit his mother. They’re best friends that she says, guess who’s here? And I’m like, who? And she goes, Lewis. And I’m like, little Lou. Put him on the phone. And I’m expecting to hear this voice that I remembered. No, the deep bass boom. And I didn’t think much of that exchange. We spoke maybe a few minutes, caught up briefly, and then fast forward. A couple of days later, I get this number calling. I don’t know the number, so I ignore it. But I’m on the phone with our mothers at the time. They’re in the car together, and I’m like, someone’s calling me. I don’t know who it is. I’ll get back to them later. Little did I know, my mom had given him my phone number. She didn’t warn me, though. I was so upset. And I told him, I’m going to kill her. But it was the best thing ever. So you got to love moms, and you got to trust heart. I didn’t mention that when we were little, we kissed. The first day we met, it was all his fault. We were playing hide and go seek. I got in trouble for it. But I did write him one of those little cute little letters that when you’re a kid, do you like me? Check yes or no. And I said, I think you’re so beautiful. I misspelled it. Creative license. But his mom kept that letter for years. And so when he spoke to me, he’s like, do you remember that letter? And I realistically, honestly did not until I hung up the phone and everything came rushing back. And I knew two weeks after that call we were going to be married.
Gloria Grace Rand
Wow.
Yvonne Nobles
But I didn’t tell him. I waited for him to ask, and when he did, he was over the moon screaming with joy, I knew. So love is just an amazing, beautiful thing.
Gloria Grace Rand
I love that. I love that. It’s funny, I had a relationship with a boy when I was probably four or five.
Yvonne Nobles
Yeah?
Gloria Grace Rand
But what I remember about that is every time, because his mom and my mom were friends and so they would visit and so I would come along, tag along and go play with Teddy. And every time we left, we would just insult each other. That was our way of saying we would just call each other names. But it was just so silly and it’s so fun. I love that. What a very cool story. So somehow along the way, you wound up starting a career. And I know you’ve got, I believe, well, I mentioned in your bio that you led like million dollar sales teams and things like that. But now, today, I mean, you’re this success strategist. So what really got you interested in really being able to help other entrepreneurs? I presume it’s, I believe it’s entrepreneurs that you work with. What really got you into focusing, I guess that is focusing in on success and strategies?
Yvonne Nobles
Well, for the irony of anyone who are listening in your audience, life has a way of taking you the long, scenic route. So I didn’t know for certain that’s what I was going to end up doing. Along the way, I’ve had jobs and I’ve kind of fell into the sales arena. I always hated the thought of sales. I thought those are car salesmen or the oily guys that would knock on the doors and sell you encyclopedias when I was little. And I would go to these arenas, try a job out, I’d never follow the rules. I would always focus on connection, story, getting people to laugh, brighten their day, and getting referrals. Even if I never sold you, I knew you needed someone who might need the service. And so that eventually would lead to me outperforming teams and people who’d been there for years, when I’m new. The most ironic one to me was when I was in the cruise industry. I just lost dad. We relocated from New York and we’re here in South Florida looking for something to pay the bills. And a dear friend said, you should come and try selling cruises. I’ve never even been on one. How could I be good at that? And she’s like, trust me, I think you’d be great. She saw something I didn’t even know. And that’s something I think is so huge. Even in coaching, sometimes you have to buy into the belief that other people have in you. Embrace that because it can take you places you’d never imagined. So a few months in, after training, I’m outperforming people who’ve been there 20 years. And eventually I was asked to manage and motivate and lead others that were selling as well and give them that secret sauce that it’s not really about the product or the service, it’s all about the connection. So in doing that, however, the pandemic shows up. Everyone knows what happened to the cruise industry then. And even though it became a little toxic because we kept rescheduling and we were working extra long hours, and no one knew when the cruise ships would move again, I started supporting people. People had lost their jobs and their livelihoods. They lost their relatives and their friends. And I needed someone to talk to. And having that calming voice on the phone, even though a stranger, someone that wouldn’t judge, I realized the time was right, so I was ready to just jump into it full time. And it’s been amazing ever since.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, that’s been the story for a lot of different people during the pandemic. Really led to these amazing pivots. But I do want to focus in on the important point that you shared right at the beginning of your story and what you’ve been able to now tap into is that selling. Yeah, because I know when I first started my business, too, I was like, I don’t want to be. I want to sell, but I have to sell if I want to be able to be in business. But you do. You have that stereotypical image. But I love how you said that you focused in on relationships. Ultimately, that’s really what it is. So I mentioned at the very beginning that we were going to talk about self care. So what is your, what’s your belief around the importance of self care when it comes to being an entrepreneur?
Yvonne Nobles
Great question. I think, unfortunately, it’s sorely neglected. And it’s one of those things that people assume is optional or a nice to have. But I’m on a mission to enforce – it is a need to have. It is necessary, and ironically, it can take you to new heights because it’s as if you have to slow down to speed up. So when you find that things are overwhelming and crazy and you’re not getting the results you want, step away. Take a break. So, case in point, I worked that job in the cruise industry a full year before I went on a cruise myself, and I borrowed from the memories and experiences of others as I was describing and painting the picture on the phone. It wasn’t until my husband and I went on our first cruise that I realized what all the buzz was about, and I came home a new woman every time. So you fast forward to our first cruise after the pandemic, and I’d manifested a particular ship when I heard three years prior getting built. I said, we’re going to be on that ship and our first suite at sea. And it happened. And so it was with this majestic background of ocean waves in seven days that I wrote a book. And so I realized when you step away and you pour into yourself, you can accomplish things that seem miraculous. But the key is to take the break.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, that’s for sure. Well, let me ask you a little bit. Do you have? I know you said basically you waited a year before you went on a cruise. And I can understand that, especially because you pretty much had no choice. But has there been any other time in your life, even when you were working for other people, where you didn’t put yourself first, where you weren’t taking care of yourself? What happened?
Yvonne Nobles
Yeah, I feel like I’m speaking on behalf of women, not just in America, but around the world, when what we do is we’re putting so much effort and energy into taking care of everyone around us. So first thought would be your children, your spouse, your family, but that extends to your job or your business, because the majority of your waking hours are probably spent with your livelihood. And so when you do that to the neglect of yourself, then the question becomes, well, who’s taking care of you? So, yeah, that was definitely my experience for many years. It led to burnout. I didn’t even know exactly what was the trigger or what was going on. I thought it was… I was always looking for an external thing to blame. And then fortunately, I had a dear friend who held up the mirror and explained one job in particular, that I was complaining, “They’re just taking advantage of me and I can’t handle.” We were on a break together, and he said, well, is it happening only because you’re allowing it? I tell you, Gloria, I went back from that break and I told them, I give them the ultimatum. I said, two weeks. I’m giving you notice unless you allow me to move into a role that is less stressful. I had to fight for me. And do you know when I left that role, they split it not into two, but into three. I was doing three people’s jobs. And mind you, if they did that, that means it probably needed five people they were willing to settle. Okay, we’ll bring three in here. And it was such a big life lesson for me to always be your strongest advocate and making sure that you’re taking care and taking time so you can be there for the ones that you love.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, absolutely. I’ve counseled my own clients on that as well, is that you have to be able to. Well, it’s the old analogy about the flight attendants on the airplane. You’ve got to be able to put the oxygen mask on yourself first because otherwise, if you want to be able to take care of anybody else, you can’t do it if you are unconscious. And that can manifest as being burnt out or stressed out or becoming physically sick if you don’t take your self care, mental care, as well as physical care and doing that. So I’m glad that you learned your lesson. So for those who are watching this podcast today or listening to it, and they’re saying, yeah, I’m really feeling stressed out and I want to be able to put myself first, where do I start? What do you recommend?
Yvonne Nobles
I always say baby steps because it’s going to feel foreign and you may even go through some guilt when you start putting that time on you instead of with others. The beauty of it is once you start acquiescing and really embracing the freedom that comes with, wow, I don’t have to be encumbered or fettered to my desk, or I don’t have to be available for calls 24/7, once you kind of step away from that hustle culture, that feeling, that energy is something that starts transforming you. So, for example, if it means 15 minutes taking a walk, if it means doing a deep breathing exercise, if your thing is writing, journal, poetry, get your emotions and your feelings and your thoughts onto paper. If you’re not much of a writer but things are coming to you and you need to get them out, maybe you can just do voice memos on your devices. You probably hear my pet in the background. So embracing, having a little puppy or a kitten, whatever you can do to step away from burdens and realize and reconnect with your why it makes such a big difference. And again, start small and just grow from there.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, I agree with that 100%. It’s like any other type of activity or habits that you want to build, you’ve got to just start. Don’t try to do everything at once. But if you can just start with those small steps, that is the way that you can have that long term success and being able to do that. So I appreciate you sharing that with us. Is there any type of myth, would you say, or something? Or maybe even not a myth necessarily, but let’s say, how do I want to say this? Commonly held belief? That’s what I’m looking for. A commonly held belief around self care or that you passionately disagree with.
Yvonne Nobles
I’m recently embracing that there tends to be a bunch of emphasis on work life balance, but that is nearly unachievable for some people because of the many obligations that they do have at home. And I think the pandemic uncovered a lot of those. So you had the woman that once upon a time was just going to work, but now she’s at work with the kids, with the housework, and with everything else that came with it. So instead, I think it’s more about work life integration, how you look for finding a way to incorporate both of those pieces into your identity without feeling overwhelmed. So that’s going to be different for every individual. It’s going to be different even depending on where you live or what your particular career choices are. So what I do is I was so excited by this. I’m launching a product wherein I coach you on a cruise. So I literally force you to leave your normal day to day environment and kidnap you, take you away, so that you can just be immersed in what it means to have someone else taking care of you and what that reset and that renewal actually does for you so you can show up more powerfully in the lives of those you are taking care of.
Gloria Grace Rand
I love that. What a wonderful concept. Yeah. What would you say is the biggest benefit of someone doing this? Because I can feel like someone will still be resisting and saying, I don’t know if that’s really something that I should be doing. I would say also one of the big myths that I’ve heard is that self care is selfish. So do you think of that?
Yvonne Nobles
Yeah. So I’ll do it in reverse. The self care is selfish component. Selfishness, by definition, is caring only about you to the detriment of anyone around you that needs your support. Self care stems from taking care of yourself, so you can take care of those that need you better, longer. And so the benefit is both to you and to those that rely on you. I would go so far as to say the antithesis of that, that the lack of self care or neglecting self care is selfish. Because you mentioned earlier that stress makes you physically sick. And doctors have really confirmed stress kills. So if you are in a space, it’s like someone who knows they need to eat healthy, but they choose the junk food instead. And so eventually they end up with a condition that takes them away from their family, much sooner than necessary. Lacking self care, same deal. You just can’t see the benefits as quickly or the detriment of ignoring it. It’s something that works under the surface. So I always say it’s kind of like a little sequoia seed. It starts out super tiny and it turns into this amazing thing. But just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there. So the same thing with self care, it is an ongoing process. It takes time, it takes energy, but it is so worth it. Not just for the person involved, but all of those. Whether it’s your work base, a team, you’re supporting and leading, your family. Because in all of this, Gloria, it really comes down to the next generation. They need the support and guidance from someone who’s calm and centered and, okay. Not frazzled and burnt out because she’s doing too much.
Gloria Grace Rand
Absolutely. Yeah. And that gives you the opportunity to demonstrate to them that you are worthy to take a break. You’re doing this for the family. You’re doing it as well as for yourself. But ultimately it is. It’s a real act of kindness, of love for someone else by taking care of yourself. I know that my poor mom, God rest her soul, she did not model necessarily taking care of herself very well and then left us too soon. So I feel.
Yvonne Nobles
I’m so sorry for that.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, well, I appreciate that. She’s been gone 20 years now already. I can’t believe it. I lost my train of thought. But that’s okay. Go back.
Yvonne Nobles
I was going to jump back into the rest of that question. When you’re like, well, what if someone says, that’s not for me? I will admit I wasn’t a believer either until I went through the experience. So a lot of people take a cruise just for escape. They’re running away from life. And the downside is, when they get back home, guess what? Problems are still waiting. What’s different about this experience is you get away, but you get away on a mission. You get away to reset, to refuel. But you’re also learning the techniques and the tools that are necessary on your day to day, moving forward, where you can indeed face whatever is waiting for you. So it’s a double edged sword. It’s a beautiful benefit, and it’s almost like a gift that keeps on giving.
Gloria Grace Rand
I love that. I know what I was going to ask you. What is your favorite way to practice self care?
Yvonne Nobles
I have, like, so many.
Gloria Grace Rand
Well, that’s good.
Yvonne Nobles
Some of my favorites are definitely just disconnecting, unplugging listening to music. Ever since I was a tiny tot, I love all kinds of genres. So whether it’s country, R and B, classical, music just it’s like the universal language. No matter what your primary language of the heart is, when the music is combined with the lyrics, the melody, it can lift you and transport you somewhere new. Also, ever since childhood, reading, I was such a nerd that my mom would yell at me to come out of the room and watch TV. That was, like, my punishment. So reading is another means where you can just take a break and either learn something new if you’re into nonfiction, or walk in someone else’s shoes if you really are a fiction lover. Yeah, there’s just so many ways. If you are a wine specialist, trying new wines, if you’re a foodie, if you love tea, going to a good tea house, there’s the list goes on and on. But, yeah, I just love trying new things and especially making new know. When we lived in New York, I was notorious whenever I was on the train for at least four people on a given trip coming up and just talking to me. And it’s one of those things where when you have that inviting aura and people just they love that you’re exuding peace, you get to see that everyone has a story. So when you get those connections and you get to really learn about people from all over the world, that too, is a way of taking care of you because you’re growing in the process.
Gloria Grace Rand
Absolutely. Yeah. And I hear your little puppy in the background there. Yeah, I did. But I do think also having pets and being able to, even though it’s taking care of them, but I think that’s also a way of self care as well, because I find myself, I’ve got two cats at the moment, and one of them is very pushy. And so I think he knows when it’s time for me to get up from sitting at the computer, and he’s like, mom, you need a break. And he’ll come in and meow. So it’s like I have to get up and get away give him some petting, right? Yeah. Because it’s like, yeah, you’re right. I’ve been sitting here too long. Pets, I think, can be wonderful self care.
Yvonne Nobles
Yeah, I… Morris has actually sat on my laptop.
Gloria Grace Rand
Well, yes, they do try to do that, too, but usually I can catch him before he starts wanting to climb up on the desk. Oh, my goodness. Is there anything in this life yet that you haven’t done that you would like to set your sights on doing in the near future?
Yvonne Nobles
Whenever I still myself, my heart, my mind, and I kind of project ahead, I feel into the energy of seeing the grandchildren of the woman whose lives I’ve touched. I think sometimes we get caught up in the day to day and we’re only seeing the now. So I’d love to have that ability to either lead a nonprofit or provide something that just helps more and then helping more so educating people that even the little things make a big difference, because again, I revert to many women carry around these feelings of guilt and shame and regret over choices that remain in the past. But I think it’s so important and empowering to understand that the little things you do today can make a huge difference tomorrow. So whether that’s the children or education, just something that, just like a wave that gets larger over time, never give up reinforcing that message for more people to understand and take to heart.
Gloria Grace Rand
Excellent. And one last question. I’m going to ask you too. Well, second to last question. What are you curious about right now?
Yvonne Nobles
Well, the biggest thing that I’m looking at is itineraries for these cruises, even not starting out from South Florida, which is a bit selfish, so I don’t have to go far for embarkation. Big picture is I’m looking at doing Greece and the Mediterranean. One of my favorite trips was out of Europe. I started in Lisbon and closed in Barcelona. I think, you know, that dual impact of giving women the benefit of traveling and escape, but with the intent of building and growing larger and collapsed time. Yeah. I’m just learning a lot more about the world and how even though it seems like a large place, we’re really all connected.
Gloria Grace Rand
Absolutely. Yeah. Is there anything else that I didn’t ask you about with regards to self care or just even helping entrepreneurs to be more successful that you’d like to share with our audience?
Yvonne Nobles
Well, one thing I’ll pass along, when I was going to pursue massage therapy, I had a mentor. She’d been practicing for 20 plus years at the time, and she was both a licensed nurse practitioner and a massage therapist. I credit her with giving me my life back. I’d been in a bad car accident, and I’d gone to a bunch of chiropractors and doctors seeking relief and couldn’t get what I needed. And I felt whole again when I actually was in her hands, and she saw that I had a natural knack for it. And one thing that she always emphasizes is while you’re working on someone, and so I’m saying this from the point of self care, when you’re working on you, and you’re sitting there breathing deep, and you’re looking for a release. You can say a certain phrase to yourself that helps you feel lighter. So it’s four expressions. I love you. Please forgive me. I’m sorry. Thank you. And so when you go through that process and sequence and whether you’re visualizing someone, whether it’s yourself or someone else or a circumstance, I think it’s so necessary to help people grow and get unstuck.
Gloria Grace Rand
Yeah, definitely. Oh, wonderful words of wisdom that you’ve been sharing with us today. I so appreciate it. And I know.
Yvonne Nobles
Oh, thank you.
Gloria Grace Rand
Oh, well, I know that there are folks out there who are thinking, “Hmm. Maybe I might want to look into this cruise. I need a break. How do I get in touch with Yvonne?”
Yvonne Nobles
Well, I welcome them to send me an email. You can either send it to newyouwowcoach@gmail.com I think you said you had that going across the screen. And then for those that are on Facebook, and technically, even if you’re on LinkedIn or Instagram, I always use the moniker New You Wow. So on Facebook, you’ll find me under my name, Yvonne Nobles. But everywhere else, just look for new you wow. And I’ll be there supporting you.
Gloria Grace Rand
All right, excellent. Well, I will have all of that information in the show notes. So if you are listening somewhere where you can’t get to a pen or something, just go to liveloveengagepodcast.com. You will find this episode as well as all of our past episodes, and you’ll get all that information. So again, thank you so much for taking time out of your schedule and to spend some quality time with us today. I really appreciate it, Yvonne.
Yvonne Nobles
Oh, it’s been a tremendous honor. I count it a privilege, and I’m wishing you and your audience every success going forward. Thank you, Gloria.
Gloria Grace Rand
And I also want to invite all of you who’ve been listening and watching. If this is your first time, make sure that you’re subscribed on your favorite podcast platform or subscribe on YouTube. And what is it? You have to hit the bell or something so you get notifications and all that fun stuff. And until next time, as always, I encourage you to go out and live fully, love deeply and engage authentically.
