In this episode we’re joined by Janice Burt, a multi-talented woman who provides so many different valuable services. Janice is an interpreter, voiceover artist, yoga instructor, and inspirational speaker. Today, we’re focusing on communication with heart.
After a painful divorce nine years ago, Janice decided to focus on her own personal development and growth. She loves walking through her fears to become the best version of herself possible. Through her own growth and experience, she has been able to help other people do just the same.
On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast:
- What communication with heart means to Janice.
- The realization Janice had after her rock-bottom moment.
- What she has been able to accomplish simply by taking her power back.
- The kind of work that really lights Janice up.
- Why empathy is more important now than ever before.
- Why Janice loves talking about courage and walking through fear.
- Janice’s journey walking through her own fears into public speaking.
- What happens when we let fear go too far.
- The advice Janice would offer to those struggling with their own fears.
- Why you should try new things and give yourself permission to act like a kid again.
- The meaning behind Janice’s tattoo, which says “balance.”
- Why being grateful is crucial to our happiness.
- The small simple tool we often forget to use to help with stress.
- How the way we feel about ourselves influences every other area of our lives.
- The initial step so many people skip in starting their own business.
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Janice’s Website: https://www.spanishjanice.com/
Janice’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPzWl4D3nSE8TyGr_pLAXEQ
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[00:00:02] I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the Love Method and author of the number one Amazon best seller, Live Love Engage How to Stop Doubting Yourself and start being yourself.
[00:00:15] In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully, love deeply and engage authentically so you can create a life and business with more impact, influence and income.
[00:00:33] Welcome to Live, Love, Engage.
[00:00:38] Namaste and welcome to Live, Love, Engage, I am Gloria Grace rand, and today we’re going to be talking about communication and communication with heart and probably a bunch of other things that I don’t even know yet what we’re going to talk about, where we’re going to talk about it with this lovely lady, Janice Burt, first off, who is a really multitalented woman. And I will tell you about her in a moment. But first off, welcome to Live Love Engage Janice.
[00:01:10] Now, I must say also, I love how you opened up your show with that. That’s amazing. And thank you for having me on.
[00:01:19] Well, I am delighted. We met recently at Ötzi. It was a mastermind event, I believe it was. And yeah, there are a lot of interesting people have that event and it’s wonderful to be able to connect with someone that, you know, from different parts of the country and to be able to find out fascinating things. And so let me tell you a little bit about the multitalented Janice. She is a Spanish interpreter, voiceover artist, yoga instructor, author and inspirational speaker. And after a painful divorce nine years ago, she decided to focus on self development and personal growth. And she loves walking through her fears to become the best version of herself possible. And she’s a lover of peace and a proponent of love, which is definitely one of the reasons why we connected, because that’s what I’m all about with my live Loving Age podcast that you’re listening to and are watching on YouTube. So I thought we would start with the fact that when I was looking at your website, I noticed that it says communication with heart.
[00:02:38] So I was curious to know, I guess, what that means to you really? And why is it important to you?
[00:02:48] Yeah, I think communication with heart to me just means putting my authentic self out there and coming from a very heart centered space. That’s typically my M.O., I guess is kind of like to wear my heart on my sleeve and I feel all my my feels and I’m very much in that kind of heart space. So I would say that’s that was kind of my thought with the communication with heart was just that open hearted, honest, authentic me.
[00:03:37] I like that. And and for those of you who are listening, you wouldn’t be obviously can’t see this, but I noticed that in your office you have this big red heart up on a shelf behind you there. So you walk the walk, I guess, and talk the talk and have it have your heart up on not only your sleeve, but in your case, there are elements.
[00:04:01] That’s the whole you know, you are involved in a lot of different things.
[00:04:08] Again, I was looking at your website, and I love actually how you have it set up, because up at the top, you know, normally you would see on a typical website it has, you know, about and services and different pages. But I love how you have like each page was sort of Spanish Janis and voice over Janis Yoga. Janis So.
[00:04:31] So I will I’m going to have this is sort of a I’m going to come at you from the standpoint of what the gurus would say is like, oh my gosh, why are you and all those different things?
[00:04:43] And isn’t that confusing to your clients that you’re working with? And you need to be like one thing to one person and not have all these things is too confusing.
[00:04:53] So what would you say to somebody like that? Because you’re not afraid to say, no, I do all of these different things.
[00:05:00] And trust me, I have heard exactly that. And there is wisdom to that for sure. For me, it’s I come from a place of not really knowing myself very well, having lost my voice in the world. So after my divorce and that rock bottom moment, I had this realization, which was I was really good at placing blame. I was really good at the victim mentality and oh, poor me and what everybody has done to me. And I just decided, you know, I’m I’m done living from that place. I want to create my life. I need to take personal responsibility from here on out, like the past may be the past. And that’s fine. It is what it is. But here I have a choice and and aim a moment to decide basically who I want to be, how I want to live the rest of my life. So I just started, like, for instance, before my divorce, I hadn’t done any of those things that are up on my eye. I hadn’t done voiceovers. I wasn’t a Spanish interpreter. I didn’t read all the none of it. So over the last eight years, I have just dedicated myself to, first of all, really figuring out who I am, what I stand for, what my voice wants to be in this world. And I’ve just developed myself little by little, baby step by baby step. It didn’t happen overnight. But, you know, now, eight years later, nine years later, I can wake up and look at my website and go, wow, those are the things that I’ve accomplished in eight years just from taking the power back and taking my life back. So for me, it wasn’t so much, oh, it has to be perfect for marketing and for getting clients. It was more like, hey, this is me and I just want to put it out there and continuing to to continue to develop those skills and then just see what life brings and offers me as I’m walking out these steps.
[00:07:32] I love that. I mean I mean, literally, it’s like my heart was just like just like swelling with pride, love, admiration for you to.
[00:07:46] The man is not even courageous, but just owning the fact that this is who you are, this is the value you bring and that. Yeah, and I guess it is it’s being courageous, not being afraid to say, hey, I do this, I do that, I do this other thing and I enjoy it.
[00:08:05] I assume you enjoy it because otherwise you probably wouldn’t have it on your website. Right. And I think that is an important lesson for all of us. And I can and I can also totally relate to it, because I have been going through a similar journey in the last few years myself and trying to figure out what it is that I really want to do.
[00:08:28] And I know that even as this year I was working with a branding coach and to position my CEO copywriting business more effectively at the same time, I’m really loving to on the podcast. I’m really loving speaking and I’m writing a book. And now yesterday I just came up with another idea for another book. And I’m thinking, you know, this this website may evolve. And I and I had already I had updated my LinkedIn profile picture, and I’m realizing that it’s not really in congruence with what it says down below, because at the top it’s like podcast, host, author, speaker. So clearly that’s where my brain is and that’s where my heart is, I think actually more so. Yeah. It’s interesting how these things happen, isn’t it? So of the different things that you do, do you have a favorite wheelhouse that you like to play in or is it just maybe even depend on the day?
[00:09:33] Yeah. You know. So personal development and personal growth, that’s kind of on the top of my list of just things that light me up, that excite me, and it really is the internal work that I do. And, you know, some days it’s really uncomfortable. Some days it’s really unpleasant and painful. And I kind of. Don’t like it during those days, but I know the benefits, I guess I’ve experienced the benefits enough to go wait a minute. That’s like the pain or the difficulty that you go through when you’re growing yourself and when there’s something super positive on the other side. So it’s worth it. And so I would say when I do more inspirational speaking. I get so lit up and it really feels like that’s my passion, my purpose in life, and I think partially it’s because I’m just speaking to myself the things that I need to be reminded of. And so to be able to do that externally and hopefully put out positive information or encouragement to other people at the same time, I’m receiving that on my end. So I love that.
[00:11:05] Now, recently, I had an opportunity and this is in the early stages still of developing it. But to work with a company where I would and this is kind of putting all my things together, which feels really good, which is it’s it’s like a meditation type of app or deep relaxation guided meditation type of thing. But I would translate and record it in Spanish. So it use it. I mean, it’s like all the things exactly like together I’m like, oh my gosh, this is so in alignment with everything that I do. So I would say that so far is the thing that I’m most excited about. Honestly, I love the variety. So if every day I was, let’s say, just interpreting or just even acting, which I really enjoy, but I’ve realized with acting, a lot of it is sit there and wait, you know, for a long time before you have the opportunity. So I think I would kind of get tired of that if I was doing that every day. So it’s really nice to be able to mix it up.
[00:12:21] I love that. And I love how it’s aligned for you to be able to do this interpretation of the Spanish interpreting of meditation. And I think that’s, again, a good lesson for anyone listening out there, that this is why it’s important to really you find what you love and do it, because when you are out there putting your heart and soul in things, that’s when opportunity show up. People see you. I mean, yesterday I did a I did a Facebook live. Just I haven’t done one in a long time, but I was inspired after I had done some writing in the morning, some journaling and then sort of tied in with that after the election. As we’re recording this, it’s a couple of days past the the US presidential election. And and somebody saw me and said, oh, I’d love to maybe have you on my Facebook, glad that I’m doing I do these transformational Thursdays.
[00:13:15] And and so would you like to come on, let’s talk some more about this stuff, because I put myself out there doing what I loved to do, what I felt called to do, opportunity showed up. So take advantage of that. That’s. So well, actually, that that brings me to another question for you is especially dealing with, you know, providing inspiration, hopefully to people what has been or even what what would you offer people even now that the election is over?
[00:13:54] You know, there’s still people are going to be unhappy. It’s going to be some people are happy. Some people aren’t happy, just like it’s been through this whole period and we’ve gone through.
[00:14:02] What words of advice would you have for someone out there to be able to, I guess, manage whatever feelings are coming up for them right now?
[00:14:13] Oh, man, that is a good question. With everything that is going on, I would say right now, though. Empathy.
[00:14:26] Is huge and really, you know, it’s so easy to put up our walls and this is my stance and this is what I believe, and if you believe any differently, then don’t talk to me or, you know, and it’s very divisive.
[00:14:46] And I would just say when we can have empathy for somebody else and their position and their views, even in their struggles and how they show up in the world, then I feel like that does a lot for our own hearts when we’re relating to people. At least I know it does for me. And I can actually feel the difference. Like if I put up those kind of barricades around my heart and my, you know, this is what it is. And I’m very adamant and I don’t want to listen to you like I think that’s a huge problem right now, is not being able to just listen to somebody that has a different opinion or even a different life experience. And just knowing, man, I didn’t live that life. I don’t know what that was like. So tell me about that. How do you feel? How what what’s going on? And genuinely just be open to listening to somebody else. I think something shifts within us and it doesn’t mean we’re going to necessarily agree on all the issues or anything like that.
[00:16:03] But it’s this it’s just bringing humanity together in a way that is more loving, more empathetic, more compassionate, as opposed to you’re over there and I’m over here and we’re just divided and we’re not going to listen to each other. Yeah. So that’s something that we could do just for our own hearts, you know, to be in a better place and a better mindset.
[00:16:31] I would also say movement is so good for us. And a lot of times it’s kind of the last thing that we want to do is like I don’t want to do any physical movement, but in moving physically, we actually can release a lot of this stress, a lot of the tension that we’re feeling. So it’s it’s movement coupled with, I would say, sitting in stillness or doing some meditation and changing our state of being. There’s something about that that is liberating. And and, yeah, just helps us relieve stress and tension and anxiety, which a lot of us are dealing with right now.
[00:17:24] Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. In fact, that was interesting. I was having a discussion with my coach today and and I was telling her I was feeling a bit anxious because I had a lot of things to do today and then but she helped me to actually really just come up with a plan of action to figure out what did I want to do first. And it was as I was prioritizing that helped take some of that anxiety off of my shoulders. And I could relax a bit. But I I do think it’s important, just as you said, to be able to do get do some movement and to find ways to be able to shift how you’re feeling and to listen to people that is so important. We just don’t do enough of that. It’s it’s so hard because I sometimes and I know I was guilty of this in the beginning when I first started my podcast is at the same time I’m listening, but I’m also trying to figure out, OK, what am I going to ask next? And then and then when you do that, you part of your brain just really does shut off. And that I’m not really totally present to the guest what they’re saying. So there is an art to that, learning how to do that.
[00:18:40] And I’m practicing every day, so I’m not perfect yet, but I’m definitely working on it.
[00:18:48] No, that’s awesome. And it’s having the awareness of that is huge. You know, they say nothing changes without awareness. So even just knowing then we can start going because it’s the same thing. When I interview people also, I find myself doing the same thing. You’re kind of thinking, OK, what’s the next question?
[00:19:06] Which we do actually in normal conversation, because a lot also and there’s something so amazing about clearing out our mind and our thoughts and just being totally one hundred percent focused on what that other person is saying. It’s it’s amazing. And it is something that takes. Practice, practice, practice, for sure.
[00:19:30] Absolutely, and I’ll just let folks know who are listening to this, if you sometimes hear me pause when after someone is is talking, it’s because I am now trying to figure out what do I want to ask now, because I’ve been attempting to be really present and listening to your answer and then now saying, OK, what what direction should we go to next? So I’m going to pass the ball to you and say, what direction do you want to go to? So if if someone were to phrase it a different way, let’s say. Because you are normally interviewing other people, is there have there been any times when you asked a question and maybe you maybe it was something that you wish somebody had actually asked you because maybe you’ve never even had a chance to answer? So is there anything that anyone has hasn’t asked you that you’ve been burning to tell people about?
[00:20:32] No, it’s a good question. I don’t know if there’s something they haven’t asked me because usually we go pretty in-depth in in the interviews and things. But I would just say I love talking about. Courage and walking through fears because I’ve lived in such a place of complete fear. And it was this unconscious fear in a sense that I didn’t even really know that I was living with so much fear. And it was actually not until I did. It was a hypnotherapy session where it was more that guided relaxation and going deep within that. When I went within myself, I actually saw and felt all of the fear and it was like the craziest experience. But in that moment I had the realization. And then from that moment on, my goal was to release the fear. And because I know that we’re either living from a place of love or from a place of fear, and I’m sure you’ve heard this before, they can’t coexist. You can’t have love there and fear there at the same time. So to me, when I heard that and then I saw all the fear inside of me, I’m like, well, jeez, that means, you know, there’s no love in there. That’s horrible. And so my in these past eight or nine years, my my goal and what I’ve been working on is really to every day make a choice to choose love. And so that fear cannot exist within me. But at the beginning, I had to really take a strong stand against fear because it had controlled my my life for so long. I was like, OK, I’m going to do all the things that I’m scared of. And and this is what I recommend to people to to do also is create a list of fears.
[00:23:02] And you can start with general ones or start more with specific ones. But usually all of our fears, once we boil them down, are pretty similar. It’s the fear of not being good enough, the fear of being judged, the fear of failure, the fear of loss. I mean, we have all these kind of common fears.
[00:23:24] And then I just thought, OK, I know public speaking, for instance. And I knew I loved inspiring people and speaking this way. Yet the fear held me back from doing it. So then I thought, OK, here’s the end goal is I want to be able to speak in public, be able to inspire people this way. So how do I start when the fear feels so overwhelming? How do I start? And it was just baby steps. So I felt like, OK, I know, I want to do that. Let me research a little bit about public speaking. So then the more knowledge we have, that takes a little bit of the fear away. So I started watching TED talks and those types of things. OK, I see how these people are doing it. I see what they’re talking about. Then I joined Toastmasters.
[00:24:20] So which is a public speaking organization. You’ve heard of it and started, you know, just giving speeches with my note cards and started really just baby steps and then started competing in speech competitions and started doing more things on stages.
[00:24:41] And I will say when you’re walking through fears, it’s not going to be perfect. Every time each in Toastmasters that I gave, I started shaking uncontrollably. Oh, no. Oh, yeah. I mean, like to the point where I was going to fall over, I had to hold on to the podium. It was like a violent shaking roll. But that was such an amazing moment because I decided to stand there and shake instead of going and sitting down in my safe place. And that’s when I knew, OK, this is the crossroads. This is right here where fear either is controlling me or I’m controlling it.
[00:25:28] So in our vulnerability, in our being able to be not perfect, we are liberated and not only that, other people are liberated to just say we don’t have to be perfect there. And there’s what is perfection and how boring is that anyway?
[00:25:46] And let’s, you know, let’s flaws and all. But let’s live life. So that’s I would say to to you, to people, to whoever is watching, to myself, because it’s a daily thing. I want to live life to the fullest, to the best the best version of me possible. And that just doesn’t include fear or fear holding me back, because obviously fear in some instances is good. It’s put there for a reason to protect us. But when we let it go too far, it can literally control our existence.
[00:26:32] And I had a counselor one time who said sometimes it’s not necessarily fear. We may think it’s fear, but it could actually just simply be excitement or we can even just think of it that way. So, like, normally you could be nervous and scared before you are going to be public speaking in public somewhere. And and frankly, as you know what I mean, I think even professionals who are paid millions of dollars, they still get sometimes nervous. And singers, I think even like Barbra Streisand, I think is famously said that she would have stage fright a bit before she would go on to sing. And then she sang beautifully. So it’s if we can just say, OK, let’s treat it as if it’s a bit of nervous energy, because it also, I think part of sometimes why we have that fear is because we really do want to do a good job. You know, it’s not that I think deep. I think deep down, maybe our head is saying, oh, yeah, be careful, you’re going to fail, blah, blah, blah. But I think our heart, the reason we get excited is because we want to do our best for the audience, the the conference and we’re speaking at a business event or something like that. You’ve got to do a good job. And so but if we can maybe categorize it as excitement as opposed to letting it be fear, that’s going to hold us back, I might be able to reframe it a little bit in our head and just say, it’s OK. We’re just excited. Yeah, this is good.
[00:28:03] Totally. Yeah, it’s perspective, right? Perspective is everything and it can shift or what story we’re telling ourselves the narrative to shift us.
[00:28:15] So. Yeah, absolutely. I like that. Yeah. Is there.
[00:28:21] What would you how do you I guess maybe how else would you approach this subject really with someone who is even in your case where you said you didn’t even realize that you had fears so. How would you kind of advice, I guess, would be what I’m trying to say is that you’d offer someone if maybe they’re. They don’t quite know why they’re not getting the results they want, and maybe it is because they’ve got some unconscious fears, is there anything that you recommend that they could do that might help them out and being able to figure it out? Maybe.
[00:29:05] I mean, I have done a lot of different types of therapy and. To me, they were all good in certain ways, in certain areas. And I think there’s something to be said for going and talking to a professional or somebody that has more training, they can definitely see things that we’re blind to that we just don’t have the eyes to see in that moment. But going into that very open minded and willing and wanting to change and transform and going, OK, I am even though it might be painful and even though it might hurt, I know it’s worth it to really take a deep look inside of myself. I think that’s what a lot of times we run from and why it’s so easy to blame others or why it’s so easy to numb ourselves by using a whole variety of tools and tools, you know, instead of sitting with our own pain. To really figure out, OK, what is first of all, what is that coming from, because I think there’s something very healing about knowing where certain things come from. So, for instance, I struggle a lot with insecurity and jealousy. So I could look at that as a forty three year old woman or whatever and beat myself up like, really, you’re forties and you’re still feeling bad about your appearance or you’re comparing yourself or you’re doing things like that. And instead of beating myself up though, if I just look at it and go OK. Well, that’s it’s a fact that you feel this way, so where where did that come from? And I can look back to my teenage years, remember when I was a tomboy and I purposefully clothed myself in a certain way and wore no makeup and I didn’t want any type of male attention.
[00:31:27] And then I would look at my female friends getting all this attention because they would put on makeup and look so beautiful.
[00:31:35] So I go, oh, well, that makes sense. And then I can have compassion on that little girl who just felt not pretty enough, not good enough in comparison. But then I can also say, OK, but it’s OK because now you have the tools, now you love yourself. And so I can kind of talk to that little girl in me that is still wounded from this past experience. And that is a beautifully healing, transformative thing that happens from the inside out in a very real way.
[00:32:19] I guess instead of just the bandaids that like that we can put on, it’s like, well, what’s the route?
[00:32:26] I want to go to the route. Like, what would happened?
[00:32:30] Absolutely. And then what I’ve learned is even when you when you can do that, when you can kind of figure it out, not only can you have compassion, I’ve I’ve learned through working with my coaches that you can actually now just totally create a new story. You don’t even have to have that same memory anymore. You could just say, you know, I was fine when that happened because I just enjoyed I wasn’t I never felt in competition with those girls or whatever. You can make it make up the story at all or just maybe even decide that, well, they were all made up, but none of the boys like them anyway because they were too made up, whatever. It doesn’t really matter because it’s in the past and nobody’s going to come back and and criticizing for changing your memory unless you go ahead and tell them you’re doing that. But if it’s just between you and yourself, you can create whatever memory you want. Brain doesn’t know any different.
[00:33:27] Yes, no, that is very I remember in one of my MDR sessions, there was a moment where she said, you know, it was kind of a traumatic moment for me in my teenage years.
[00:33:37] And she said, OK, so if you were to create something different in that moment, what would it be? And so then my story then became an empowering story instead of a story that took my power away. So, yes, that’s a great thing to do. But I think it’s super important not to avoid or repress because I was really good at repressing. And it’s those things don’t just go away. They actually get more deeply rooted within us and in our body, which is why now neck and back problems that I’m working on because of all the years of caring, stress and tension and anxiety there.
[00:34:25] Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. I mean, because that’s where you can do things like writing letters to maybe people who would hurt you or something and so that you can be able to get all of that anger out or if you’re on the page and then you can release that. But you’re right. You do you do still have to acknowledge these things because they are part of your past. And but when you can look at them in the light of day of being an adult now, as opposed to a child where you’ve got, you know, hopefully you’re a little older and you’re older and wiser and you’ve got and you can have compassion, as you were saying, have compassion, because when you were a child, you’re doing the best you can and dealing with things that you don’t necessarily understand and you didn’t maybe know how to process the emotions. And now especially if you have started to work with someone, and I think that is important is to seek help. Don’t try to necessarily fix these things on your own, because while you may, it may also take you a lot longer and have to go through a lot more pain than if you just found someone, whether it is some kind of healing professional coach or therapist counselor, there’s all kinds of folks out there who can help you and you don’t have to suffer alone totally.
[00:35:40] And I would say another crucial thing is being curious in life and really just going out. I mean, if you think about this, life is OK, we have this certain amount of time to be able to do all the things or experience or experiment or figure out. And so many times fear does hold us back from even being curious. And that’s part of the reason I am. I do so many things with just a little bit of that curiosity. Oh, wow. I wonder if I did this or let me try this. Let me sign up for this writing group. Let me go join a running group and see what that feels like. And just involving yourself in life and in this like it’s a it’s experimental, you know.
[00:36:38] And if you do something and you absolutely hate it, then you just don’t do that anymore. But at least you kind of know, OK, that’s not for me. And let me try something else.
[00:36:49] Absolutely. It’s I think it’s giving ourselves permission to really be a kid again, in a sense, because when we were kids, we would do that. We would try all sorts of things and or we’d have our parents ask our parents, can you I want to sign up for baseball. I want to do take acting lessons with my daughter and then decided she didn’t want to do that after a while. But but she didn’t know what she was going to like and what she wasn’t going to like unless she tried it.
[00:37:17] So, yeah, I think just just experiment and have fun because yeah. This whether you believe in reincarnation or not or it doesn’t matter, you’re living right now in this body. You’ve got this chance to do whatever you want to do. So take a chance and do something. And don’t don’t let don’t let fear stop you definitely don’t let fear stop you. And if you find that fear is stopping you, then then definitely go get some help because it is life is too short. Life is too short not to have fun. It is. And I know I’ve spent two years not having as much fun as I would like to. I’m, I’m remedying that now because of illness. It’s like tomorrow I’m going to go to the beach in the morning because I, I like to do that and I’ll do some work while I’m there, but I want to be able to just get away and the beach, the beach recharges me. And I think that’s important too is to find things that that fill you up. That really lights you up inside so that you can then go out and deal with things that maybe you’re not as. But when you know, when you’re coming at it from a place of. Feeling good about yourself and you can handle when challenges come up.
[00:38:44] Yes, and I love that you’re going to the beach tomorrow. Gloria, good job. That is so amazing. It really is. This the one and only tattoo I have says balance. And it is the and not when I say balance, I don’t mean it has to be perfect. Exactly. Perfect. But there is a flow and and a balance to life, like when we’re able to be productive and the time that we’re working, we really give it our all. But then when we are resting and recovering and that we’re giving that our all and we’re being very purposeful and intentional about it. So I think that’s amazing to actually put that in your calendar and go and do things that recharge you. I think that’s it’s crucial.
[00:39:41] Yeah, absolutely. And and definitely we’ve seen probably even more so this year because we’ve been dealing with the pandemic and it’s been so stressful for so many people and and even I mean, even myself, who I haven’t had it as hard as a lot of folks. And thankfully, our family has been healthy, but. I realize that there’s still been this undercurrent of stress that has been in my life, and part of it is my husband’s working from home now, which she used to do know. So I’ve had to deal with that. And but just because there’s also so much a lot of people are dealing with it. And then we have the stress of the election and all of these things and and so even. I have a whole bunch of tools available to me. I know how to use them, but frankly, I have to make sure I was carving out time to do my meditation, go out for a walk or ride my bike or do something to be able to manage that.
[00:40:45] Have you found anything like something that you’ve had to maybe even do differently this year just to help yourself out?
[00:40:52] Oh, yeah. Well, all of those things, the movement like we were talking about before, the meditation and just sitting with myself, gratitude is a huge deal, as you know. It’s like there’s something about just as love and fear cannot coexist. I feel like when we’re grateful that complaining negative narrative just shuts off, which I tend to deal with a lot, is more like the negative I can go in.
[00:41:25] These downward spiral of thought of gratitude instantly just shifts my focus. Yeah, I love yoga because I believe it incorporates the mind, body, spirit, connection that we all have pretty beautifully. So to me, if I want the physical benefits, the mental benefits and the spiritual benefits kind of all in one day I’ll do a little bit of yoga.
[00:41:54] And it’s just it’s amazing what a half hour of yoga, mindfulness, going back to our breath, just being very conscious about the inhales and exhales about allowing her to actually go all the way into our bellies and expand through because we especially with anxiety and things like that, we will shallow breathe. That’s true. And I mean, even today, I was sitting in my car driving and I noticed and like I am, there is not good oxygen circulation right now. So I’m almost holding my breath. And it was just very much without even thinking about it. And just that was my standard thing sitting there in the car. So then instantly I just took a deep inhale and through my nose allowed air to go all the way down in my stomach, allow the air to, like, make your stomach get big and then exhale all the air out. And in one breath, it just it calmed me. It it reset something. I’m like, oh, my gosh, we have this powerful tool within us and it’s so simple.
[00:43:20] And we take it for granted because our body is this wonderful machine that can just that does all the stuff without us thinking about it. But when we can be thoughtful and and you’re you’re absolutely right. Just taking too deep breaths, even even just one, frankly. But but if you can do like two or three. It does wonders. It really does, and that’s an easy thing to do, and you can do it standing in line at the grocery store and nobody even has to know you’re doing it. It’s not like you have to sit in a lotus position to meditate, just totally.
[00:43:55] No. And you know what? On this topic, really quickly, I think it’s kind of an overlooked. Topic, the taking care of ourselves topic, because I just I love the analogy of the airplane with the putting on your oxygen mask first to me, there is no better illustration to I mean, here they’re saying you have a child next to you, your own child, and they’re saying you need to put on your mask first before helping him. Because you know why?
[00:44:33] If you’re not good yourself, you cannot help anybody except one person not.
[00:44:42] Yeah, absolutely. Yeah.
[00:44:45] Yeah, so to me, self-love is me, I feel like needs to be talked about more like the care of ourselves, because even if we’re givers and nurturers, if it comes from a place of lack or it comes from a place of we’re looking for validation, which that’s why I know because I was very good at doing that. You know, I’m going to serve and give to everybody. But I have I am empty inside. And if I hate myself inside, but I am going to give to you and I’m going to help you and I’m but then you know what it’s like. It’s giving from a source of nothing and then you’re depleted and either having anxiety attacks or panic attacks or depression or and then you can help nobody.
[00:45:43] Exactly. Yeah. Or you can end up feeling resentful and and just you’re being taken advantage of and and things like that. And yeah. Because I’ve been there too.
[00:45:56] And it is so important and definitely speaking as a caregiver, I helped my sister when she was going through cancer and yeah, I made sure and that was again that I would every morning I meditated because I wanted to be sure that I could be present for her and to be the strength that she needed at the time. And if I wasn’t taking care of myself, yeah, absolutely. I wouldn’t have been able to take care of her when she needed it. So but it doesn’t even have to be a sick family member. It could be just as simple as, you know, either taking care of you kids, taking care of taking care of your business. If you’re if you are not taking care of yourself, then and especially if you’re a one person business, then what do you do when you have a sick day when your clients aren’t going to be taken care of because suddenly you’re sick? So you’ve got to make sure that you’re taking care of yourself, which could mean hiring people or or putting in systems so that things happen automatically so that you can afford to take some time off when something does happen.
[00:47:07] Yes, totally. I think in all it affects all areas of life. So professionally, your relationships, your business, it really comes down to who are we? How do we feel about ourselves? How much do we love ourselves? How are we showing up into the world? Yeah, I think everything has to do with that. So to really focus on it to me in these last eight years has become kind of a no brainer because I’m like, hey, if this is the source of everything, but I’m putting it on the back burner, that just it doesn’t make any sense. So and I think that’s again, to go back to your question about all my little things that I do think it’s. Yeah, those things. Fill me those things. Bring my voice out, my heart out. They say it’s an expression like this creative expression. And I think we are all creators. Oh, yeah. Absolutely. Yes. And so to be able to create something just for the sake of it existing and of you creating it is enough. It really is enough. And then from there, I mean, yes, we can do the cool branding things and this and the that which do work and and are great. But I think so many times we skip this initial step that is so important and we go to the the stuff that is not as crucial or important and then wonder why everything kind of fell apart.
[00:48:53] Exactly. When you because you can be not as successful, because you’re not you’ve spent too much I mean, I guess window dressing as opposed to figuring out what actually goes in the window and making them taking care of that first instead of dealing with all the trimmings. Mr. Nanji. But you know what I mean.
[00:49:15] I think totally and actually an analogy that I love is the a physical wound, like when we get cut. Yes, it hurts, right, and if we’re going to put alcohol and clean out the cut, it’s going to hurt even worse at the beginning, but then that allows that wound to heal properly. Whereas if we get cut and then we’re like, oh, it hurts, so don’t touch it. I’m not going to clean it out. I’m not going to really make sure this doesn’t get infected. Don’t touch it. It’s an infection. And then it’s the loss of an arm or mean, you know, it spirals out of control. So we have to do the the clearing out. We have to go deep into the root of our problems to effectively heal and then be who we are truly meant to be.
[00:50:12] Absolutely. I love. Well, I’ve been enjoying this conversation immensely and hopefully the rest of everyone else listening and watching has to. And perhaps if they want to be able to get in touch with you and maybe learn more about different things you do, maybe someone out there needs some Spanish interpretation perhaps, or wants to learn yoga. What is the best way that someone can contact you?
[00:50:42] Yes. So I am Spanish, Janice, on most social media platforms, but I have a website called Spanish Jannis dot com, and that’s the one you were referencing earlier. So it kind of will give you samples of different things that I’ve done and my contact information is in there. So, yeah, I’d love to be of service to anyone out there who who needs anything. I mean, really, it is putting myself out there and seeing what opportunities come along and present themselves.
[00:51:19] Absolutely. And you said that you do interviews, too. So where do you do your interviews? How can someone catch you and be able to listen to you?
[00:51:28] Yes. Oh, thank you for saying that, because this is kind of a new thing that I just discovered that I love doing so and I’m going to interview you. So you’re going to be on there, which I’m super excited about.
[00:51:37] It is on my YouTube channel, which is called Spanish Janice Speaks and there’s a playlist on there called Interviews with the Rich and Famous and heart and Soul like that for twenty five to 30 minute interviews. But they’re just full of inspiration and tips and tricks and tools and things that people use to really create their best lives to be the best them possible. And there’s just some amazing individuals from all walks of life doing. Amazing things, you know, bloggers, writers, speakers and opera singer on their marriage and family therapists and just I just love the variety of inspiration and voices that that are on there. So I put one on there every week for just a little dose of inspiration and encouragement.
[00:52:45] I love it. Well, we’re so in alignment. I’m so glad we met because, you know, that’s what I do here as well. And I love doing and I love talking to people like yourself. It’s all right. I love it because it was on your hair and it was looking very lovely for those of you listening. It just has a little bit of a sort of these vertical little dots of light that are coming through her window. And they’ve been on her shirt for most of the interview, but it was starting to creep a little bit too close to her face moved.
[00:53:20] I should have moved a while ago, but I will say this is the last bit of sun we are probably going to have here in California, because tomorrow it drops 20 degrees.
[00:53:30] Oh, my gosh. Wow. Oh, my goodness. OK, well, bundle up, I guess, for. Let’s stay warm. And I’m so glad that we had a chance to talk and to share in your brilliance because you definitely share lots of good tips and strategies yourself today.
[00:53:50] So we appreciate it.
[00:53:52] And thank you, Gloria, for having me and for being such a light in the world.
[00:53:58] And I think just in you continuing on your path is such an example for other people. And so, yeah, keep podcasting, writing that book. I can tell that’s where your speaking heart is and. Oh yeah, definitely stay on that path and you can do other things too. But that’s a good one.
[00:54:21] Yeah. Yeah exactly. I hear you. Absolutely. All right. Well until next time I thank you again for listening, for watching my little puppy dog down here. And as always, I just encourage you to go out in the world and live fully, love deeply and engage authentically.
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